Susan
Master March 2015

Thank you notes..............

Susan, on April 18, 2015 at 11:57 PM Posted in Planning 0 14
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Working on them with about 25 more to go. Is it okay to just pass them out at work to coworkers I see on a regular basis? Not sure about the etiquette here. Both of us work with very informal laid back people.

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  • Elle
    Master March 2015
    Elle ·
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    I think if you see some one regularly there is no reason to waste a stamp.

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  • KitandKaboodle
    Master November 2016
    KitandKaboodle ·
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    A co-worker was married last year and hand delivered her thank you cards to everyone at the office. Personally, I was offended by this and I was not the only one. I didn't say anything to her as she is much younger than I am, so I just chalked it up to the youth today have a different way of doing things.

    IMO, just like your invitations, thank you cards should be mailed.

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  • Happy In Hawaii
    Master July 2015
    Happy In Hawaii ·
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    Yeah I think it's fine. Shoot we handed some invitations to people personally at work. I did read that if you want to give it to someone then hand it to them personally instead of just sticking it in their work mailbox or leaving it on their desk. So as long as you do that I think it's fine.

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  • Happy In Hawaii
    Master July 2015
    Happy In Hawaii ·
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    Here's the link about hand delivering invitations, I think thank-you notes would be the same rule:

    https://www.theknot.com/content/can-we-hand-deliver-wedding-invitations

    ETA: KitandKaboodle, you were actually offended that someone handed you a thank you? I think there are much bigger things to be offended about. I've read on here many times of people that spent a ton of money for someone's wedding and didn't even get a thank you note. To me, I think it is thoughtful and nice to get it in person. Really no need to waste a stamp. Especially since the OP said her coworkers are laid back. I think people need to not get offended so easily.

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  • KitandKaboodle
    Master November 2016
    KitandKaboodle ·
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    @Happy In Hawaii, I was offended because IMO it is rude. I was raised old school and you don't hand someone a thank you card. You mail it. I am really tired of people saying that mailing an invitation or thank you card is wasting a stamp.

    If her co-workers are okay with it, then that's them. However, she asked if it's okay to hand deliver. I posted my opinion on the matter.

    And as far as people not receiving a thank you at all, very inappropriate, but not what this post is about.

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  • Susan
    Master March 2015
    Susan ·
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    Hand delivered thank you notes would not offend me. NO thank you note offends me. I don't have addresses for some of them since I am guilty of hand delivering a few invites there (less than 15%).

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  • Happy In Hawaii
    Master July 2015
    Happy In Hawaii ·
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    @KitandKaboodle, I was just saying there are much bigger things to get offended by like people not even sending a thank you, I know the OP asked on whether you'd be offended, and I honestly just don't understand getting offended by things so small. Obviously it was a big deal to you because you still remember it, I just had no idea that someone could even get offended by something that actually is quite personal. But I'm super laid back (c'mon, you have to be to live in Hawaii) and I got an invitation with a honeymoon registry included with the invitation and wasn't even offended. I would never do it myself, but if someone else does, it doesn't affect my day or think negatively of that person.

    And I do think it is a waste of money if you can hand someone something personally. If I invite 5 coworkers at 49 cents a stamp, then have their RSVP envelope stamped, and then mail their thank you card, just for five people that adds up to over $7. That's a meal.

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  • KitandKaboodle
    Master November 2016
    KitandKaboodle ·
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    @Happy In Hawaii, I wasn't offended on the level of how dare she. I was offended in the fact that I was not raised where this is acceptable. With that said, I respect your position. Now, let's agree to disagree.

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  • Kemmie
    VIP May 2015
    Kemmie ·
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    I think it's fine and I will where I can. If someone doesn't like it they can take several seats and be mad by themselves while I enjoy my husband.

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  • Ms. P to Mrs. P
    VIP July 2015
    Ms. P to Mrs. P ·
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    I personally plan to mail all of ours. However, we are inviting only inviting 1-2 co-workers from each of our offices.

    Edited for clarity.

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  • Susan
    Master March 2015
    Susan ·
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    All but 2 are written, (list in my car) and now just need addresses on them. I don't mind mailing them, I am missing a few addresses for mine,and almost all of his coworkers invites were hand delivered. Nobody has said they were offended by it.

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  • Ms. P to Mrs. P
    VIP July 2015
    Ms. P to Mrs. P ·
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    My only concern in our case is potential awkwardness at work since everyone isn't invited to the wedding. So personal thank you

    notes will be mailed. However, our office

    usually gets a group gift for everyone who is

    experiencing a life event (marriage, birth of child, etc). The receiver then writes a group

    thank you note that is posted in the office on the bulletin board after everyone receives a

    verbal thank you. But either way I wouldn't be

    offended if someone hand delivered their thank

    you card.

    Edit for spelling.

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  • Brianna
    Expert May 2016
    Brianna ·
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    I wouldn't be offended. You see them every day so mailing it is kind of silly

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  • MzRosaLu
    Master July 2016
    MzRosaLu ·
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    My coworker hand delivered my thank you card after her wedding, and I was fine with it. I actually got to gush over the cute picture with her right then and there. On the other hand, I attended my cousin's wedding and she never sent thank you cards for the wedding or her bridal shower. THAT was offensive.

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