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Expert July 2017

Thank you notes etiquette

MeganM, on March 4, 2017 at 4:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I may be overthinking this but I've read that you should send Thank You Notes immediately after receiving a gift. I'm on board with that, but then do you send another after the wedding? I would like to thank people for coming as well as for a gift if they choose to give it. What did you do/will you do/are you doing?

ETA: Would it be appropriate to send an email to guests thanking them for attending along with digital copies of any photos of them and a playlist we curated after the wedding? And then the paper thank you notes when the gift arrives (or after the wedding if they chose not to send a gift or bring one to the wedding)?

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Latest activity by NextMrsD, on March 4, 2017 at 10:35 PM

Expert July 2017
MeganM · on March 4, 2017 at 4:46 PM
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Sorry to hear it didn't go as planned. I've already started receiving gifts (not having showers) so I'm trying to decide what to do! Thanks for your input.
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VIP May 2017
The Bride · on March 4, 2017 at 4:57 PM
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I've received a few gifts already. I'm going to write them as I go. It will be easier than trying to do them all at once. Plus, it will probably make the sender feel better to know that the gift actually arrived safely.
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Jillian · on March 4, 2017 at 4:57 PM
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No input, but following for sure!
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becky · on March 4, 2017 at 5:05 PM
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I had my bridal shower last month. Prior to that I was receiving gifts in the mail. I wrote them as they came in (whether they attended the shower or not). I had about 10-15 thank yous already done. Did the rest the next 2 days after my shower. My hand was cramping real bad. Haha. So I say do what you can to relieve that issue.
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Emily · on March 4, 2017 at 5:08 PM
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You send a thank you note immediately after receiving a gift if it's sent before the wedding. You do not send "thank you for coming" notes after the wedding. The reception is a thank you for attending the ceremony plus you are expected to say thank you to guests in person at the wedding.
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NowASeptMrs · on March 4, 2017 at 5:10 PM
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If you receive a gift before the wedding send a thank you immediately. If it's the week of the wedding you could wait.
Send handwritten & heartfelt thank you's. don't send emails they could easily end up in junk email.
Dont send a playlist... too much. Remember, no one thinks your wedding is as important as you.
Don't send thank you's if they didn't bring a gift it just seems like you're trying to point that out.
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Celia Milton · on March 4, 2017 at 5:12 PM
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I would just send out "thank you for the gift' cards as soon as you get one. Keep it simple.
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NextMrsD · on March 4, 2017 at 10:35 PM
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I said my thank you and that we couldn't wait to celebrate with the gift giver.
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