Thank You Notes and Gifts to Vendors?

I agree. Honestly, your caterer isn't going to care about a hand written thank you note. Your officiant doesn't want a blanket with your monogram. If you want to thank them, give a cash tip. The only vendors who will receive a thank you card from us are the photographer and videographer, and that's just because we'll be sending them a check to tip them once we receive our photo and video.

The only reason I will be sending a thank you note is to send a tip to a vendor after the fact. Like my rental company I won't see on the day of, they will be there and gone before anyone shows up. So I will probably send a quick note with a tip for the service and delivery. The only other reason I see to send a note and a "gift" would be if you wanted to tip the owner of the company. Since it is their company and they get all the profits you wouldn't tip them, but it they went above and beyond for your event I can see sending a note with a gift card.

I thought it was a nice gesture to thank them extra for helping our day be wonderful. It wasn't that much extra effort and the always send some extras when I ordered invites/save the dates, etc so I had a few extra cards to spare. 🤷‍♀️

I think it's a nice gesture but definitely not required.

I think they would prefer a bigger tip vs. a thank you gift for sure.

Idk I work in the service industry and have never scoffed at a thank you note. Sure I’m just doing my job but it means a whole lot when people express their thanks for a job well done.

ive never heard of something like a “thanks for being there” card to a vendor, but I did send mine cards as a vessel to tip them instead of doing it on the day of. I loved writing the cards because I do so appreciate how wonderful they made my day. It really never hurts to show a little appreciation 🤷🏻‍♀️

I've always thought a thank you card is a nice gesture if you REALLY loved their services (kinda like leaving a good review for their future clients), but a gift for your vendor just sounds super weird to me lol. Tips are welcome of course, but I can't see buying a gift for a company you hired

I may or may not send a thank you note to my DOC (she comes with the venue - and has been amazing), but definitely no one else. I feel like we hired them to do a job, we paid for their lunch & a tip, & we will not be writing a hand note thanking them for doing the job that we fairly paid them for.

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That's what I was thinking too. A tip is the thank you--a gift or card isn't needed.

If all goes well, I'll write the vendors a kick butt review and a kick butt tip.

However, I do think it would be hilarious to give them like an ornament or something ridiculous with our faces on it. A lot of people don't get my humor though.

Aside from tipping the servers the night of the wedding, we plan on sending something extra to our photographer and DJ. Our DJ is FHs boss and he's refusing payment of any sort. After the wedding we're going to send him a thank you along with a gift card for a date night for he and his wife. For our photographer we'll do the same thing once we get our pictures back.