Thank you notes: American tradition or Vietnamese tradition?

Maybe do the picture thing but instead send those as the thank yous with a handwritten note attached or on the back. People get very offened when they do not receive thank yous.

You can do both. Give each person the "day-of" photo & thank you as a sort of favor, and send more formal, handwritten, thank you cards after the wedding.

I agree with @ReadyFreddy

or instead you can write the personal Thank you's ahead of time and have the envelopes ready with the Thank you inside and then just add the picture when you give it to them before leaving. ^_^

The other thing with the "American" thank yous, it's for anyone who sends a gift, which may include people who don't attend.

Could you possibly use the photo's as wedding favors, then send out hand written thank you's after the honeymoon? That way it ties both cultures together.

I guess it depends how many people you have at your wedding, it might be a little time consuming to have each person take a picture and then print it out for them. . . Plus appointing someone to print out all the pictures and put them inside a card and then the people having to even find thier card it seems like a little bit more work then what it needs to be....

I would do maybe an inbetween where they can get their pics taken but then you just print them out after the wedding is over and send them out with the thank you cards. I mean its your wedding but

sending out thank yous afterwards is more appropriate because you can thank them personally about the gift they gave u and things like that

I say you could do either one, really. You're thanking your guests for attending in writing a thank you card, not necessarily for the specific gift they brought, and for spending the day with you. Personally, i think the Vietnamese tradition is something I've never seen before, and i think guests would appreciate it as part of your culture!

You have a lot of options. Doing both represents double work, but also honors both cultures.

You might also consider having a printed card explaining the Vietnamese tradition and put it with placecards or with favors, so that your American guests understand. But your American guests might still be confused. People are very attached to their customs!

Another option is to include the photo inside the thank you card that is mailed later.

Still another option is to only send thank you cards to American guests, and, as Peezy points out, to people who sent gifts but did not attend.

So, you guys think i could print the pictures and give them to all of my guests and write out thank you notes and mail it to them later for people who gave gifts? Without offending anyone?

Thank you ALL for the comments so far... My FH didnt even know you had to send thank you cards so its difficult to discuss this with him... Lol