Thank you for an extravagant gift

Just a nicely worded note for each of them. You do not need to reciprocate their generosity with chocolates or flowers. They spent what they wanted/could afford.

Gift giving is one of my love languages so I would definitely send flowers for my appreciation.

I nice hand written note is perfect. Sending flowers or chocolates just might backfire on you. They’ll mention it to someone else that you gave them flowers or chocolates & that person will get offended that they didn’t get it too.

I think the nicest thing would be a heartfelt note, maybe include details of how you've used them already so they really feel the appreciation.

No you gave them a dinner/drinks/entertainment at your wedding. Write a very heartfelt thank you note without mentioning the value of the gift.

View Quoted Comment They are not attending the wedding. They are not comfortable traveling during Covid so we are going to stream it for them.

View Quoted Comment

Still no need to give a gift in return.

A nice note and if they have snartphones/social media, send a pic now and then of you using them.

View Quoted Comment That is a really great idea! Thank you!

Thank them with a handwritten card, the same you would for any other gift. Everyone did as much as they could, even if it may have looked smaller.

I think a lovely handwritten note would mean the world to them. Also, you can send them printed photos after the wedding as a nice gift of sorts (for your grandma, I think it's fine to do this selectively)

View Quoted Comment Aww I think that’s a fabulous idea too!! I know they will love this. Thank you 😊

I think a nice box of chocolate would be an extra nice thank you!

View Quoted Comment If you are streaming it for them, if you have any sort of favors for your in-person guests, I think it would be perfectly appropriate to send them a favor.


Otherwise, just a regular hand written note, but you can gush in the letter as much as you please. We had a couple “this is way more than you should have” people and I just went super sincere sappy in the thank you card letting them know how truly appreciated it was.
Sidenote— when you’re looking at what they spent, remember, if they were going to travel, they would have spent on that too— so not attending saved that expense, and maybe they decided to put what they would have spent towards your gift !! (This is also a good consideration why not to extra-thank some guests and not others — ex we had someone give us a pretty small gift. BUT they flew across the country to be there with us. And I know that ain’t cheap! So them being there really in a sense WAS their big gift!)

I think a very nice note or letter is plenty! They spent what they wanted and it always seems odd to me to give a gift to them for giving you a gift. Just write a long note/letter of thanks and how much it means to you, etc, etc.

View Quoted Comment

I know what you mean, we gave our neighbors a swaddle blanket and headbands (they are expecting a baby girl) and they gave us a candle and candy as a thank you.

The only reason I thought I should do something extra was because I know they really spoiled us. But also, the comments make sense that had they traveled they would have spent that.

Instead of small gifts, whick are so overused they become meaningless, in addition to your letter of thanks, ask for a picture with the on wedding day at the reception, frame it and send it. Or, in the first 6 months you are married have them over to dinner. Learn to make something new, and give them your time and attention.

Wow that's so awesome and so kind of them!! I feel like if you want to send them something a little extra, that would be so sweet of you. Of course they're not expecting it, but it's for sure a nice gesture and there's nothing wrong with doing so!

Gifts aren't supposed to be quid pro quo. They bought you something really nice because they wanted to. I feel a heartfelt handwritten note is the perfect thank you. If you want, take some photos of you enjoying their gift (you and your partner cooking together) and print them out and include them with your card. It shows a little extra effort on your part and makes a connection to how important that gift was to you.