Thank you cards

I would send plain thank you notes. It's more important to get your notes out in a timely manner.

Other than your closest family, those cards are going to end up in the recycling box anyway.

View Quoted Comment Well either way I am not hand writing if that is what you are referring to

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Are you saying that you do not intend to write a personal note of thanks for each gift?

You won't find an etiquette source that endorses pre-printed or fill in the blank thank you notes.

View Quoted Comment If you were planning on a photo card with your names printed on, please rethink this plan. Please handwrite your thank you notes.

4-6 weeks is definitely more than fine...technically you have up to a year. It's very common for people to use a photo from their wedding and I imagine no one gets them right away and then it takes awhile to write.

However, it seems you plan on not writing your thank you cards? I would highly advise against this. I think that would maybe be just as bad as not sending one at all.

I ordered 45 postcard thank you notes with phone pictures I had for 40 dollars! I couldn’t wait for the professional ones because I felt like that would take too long! I say if your phone pictures are good, to use those! It doesn’t matter if the cards end up in the trash or recycling as long as they get a thank you card!

I’m the odd one here who doesn’t see the issue with preprinted messages, especially if you’re allowed to write out the message yourself. Atleast with my family, they aren’t going to care if it’s handwritten or preprinted. Plus you can always write a little something in a blank space along with your preprinted message that you can customize to say what you want

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Since you did post card style did you have a blank side to hand write a thank you?

View Quoted Comment Thank you for this. I was going to just write a simple message as most gifts were cash. We didn’t get gifts from everyone though so trying to decide how to go about doing the pre printed message with like thanks for coming and then hand write if we got a gift like thank you for your gift. Not sure. Or if I just not say anything about the gift at all and just thank them for coming.

View Quoted Comment I didn’t have a blank side, but on the back of the postcard there is a empty little spot that I can handwrite little notes along with my personalized message that I customized

View Quoted Comment Mine I basically said thank you for celebrating our big day with us! I wrote how we loved seeing everybody, that they made our day amazing, and that we wanted to send them the best well wishes for the gifts they gave which were also cash like you. We really only received two gifts that weren’t cash. But I had it sound like it wasn’t a specific gift from people

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The one year thing is incorrect. Thanks you notes should be sent out asap and definitely within 3 months. It is the guests who have a year to give a gift if they choose to do so, although unless finances were a concern, I can't imagine waiting a year.

From Emily Post:

Contrary to popular myth, the happy couple does not have a year’s grace period in which to write their notes. All thank-you notes should be written within three months of the receipt of the gift. Ideally, a response should be written on the day you receive a wedding gift. If that’s not possible, set a daily goal. It’s a lot easier to write three or four notes a day than to have to write a hundred notes in a month after the wedding!

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I understand not being personally offended by this but that doesn't make it any less rude and incredibly lazy. You can do the postcard idea and have a "thank you from the _____" (if you plan on sharing the same last name) but then there should be a big enough blank area where you write a note. Yes, they are a pain but if people spent money on you and/or took the time to come to your wedding, you can take the 2-3 mins per card to write something. In the end of the day, you can obviously do what you want, and if you don't care what people think, I guess all power to you but beware, to most people, you will come across as ungracious.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for all this. I was going to make through Shutterfly but I am going to look at Walgreens tomorrow instead.

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Interesting, not sure how etiquette can be a "popular myth" but this doesn't really apply to me, I would never wait that long but good to know. I find if you don't receive a letter within the first few months they most likely are never going to get around to them.

I wanted to write mine as I got them, which I have done for my shower gifts, but like this poster, I would like to incorporate a photo from our wedding day and am thinking, if we have any nice photos of us the guest or just a lovely picture of them from the wedding, we will include it in the letter as well. I will probably write down the thank you's on my computer as I receive and then scribe them once I have my letters...hopefully FH will help!

View Quoted Comment Vistaprint did mine for 40 dollars for 45 cards!! Walgreens is good too!

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Don't you just love it when the OP asks an etiquette question but invariably latches onto the one opinion that agrees with what she wanted to do in the first place?

View Quoted Comment Not everything has to come off as rude or ungracious. What if somebody has bad handwriting and chooses to type messages instead of write? There’s a multitude of different scenarios, but at the end of the day, all it matters if you are sending out thank you notes to people. I had mine printed by vista print with a message that I customized and wrote out myself. I think of it was people’s preference. Not everyone does the same as others I guess I mean. Some people think preprinted are rude, some could care less I guess.

View Quoted Comment I guess it’d be the same if she latched onto your opinion right? Evidently, she’s going to agree with one opinion. Of course don’t you love it when people who give an opinion get upset when their opinion isn’t what they want to latch onto?

View Quoted Comment Thats because she actually answered the question. I didn’t ask if I should hand write them. I asked should I use regular phone pictures and send now or wait for professional pictures. She added more information but told me what she did with sending pre written ones.