Thank you cards timeline

They should be sent within 2 months. Yes it's rude to send them late and even ruder to not send them at all. Yes, you should write a personal message. They took their time and money to buy you a gift, a generic thank you card doesn't exactly show appreciation. Your wedding wasn't even a month ago, work on them now.

It’s not too late! Plus I think it’s better to be late than never at all. I have been to many weddings recently and I never received a thank you.

I would tackle a little bit each day. Also make sure you add a little personal message.

Our wedding is in July but I always heard how daunting thank you cards could be. I already ordered some so I could immediately write a thank you as soon as we start receiving gifts.

Good luck!

They should have been sent within three weeks of the receipt of the gift, but better late than never. Yes, you do have to write a personal, specific note: expressing pleasure in the specific gift (even if of money) and being glad whoever it was could be there to share your happiness (unless they weren't there, in which case you say how sorry you were). In ink, in handwriting, at least four sentences and five is better.

It takes a lot less time to write a note than it took your guest to select and send your gift, particularly if they wrapped it.

As Miss Manners once said, when gratitude goes out of style, generosity goes out of style.

It's definitely rude to not send them or send them really late. I say within 3 months is best, but the earlier the better. You don't have to write a novel in them, but something more than a "thank you" is nice.
For example, we wrote something along the lines of "thank you for taking the time out of your busy lives and travelling to come witness celebrate our marriage. We really appreciate the [insert gift here] and look forward to using it for xyz. It was so great to see you and your family!

Thank you cards are always better late than never, but I would get them out ASAP. Yes, you should definitely personalize them.

Within 3 months of getting the gifts (so usually 3 months from your wedding date.) If your wedding was in October, you’re not late yet. Here’s a good resource that tells you when you should write them by and gives you examples!!

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.theknot.com/content/amphtml/a-complete-guide-to-sending-thank-you-notes

What if most of the people did not bring gifts?

I sent mine within a month

View Quoted Comment I don’t know what “etiquette” is but, personally, I will only be writing thank you cards for the people who bring gifts and the people who have travelled out of state. I’m not expecting gifts by any means but if I’m paying $60 for a persons dinner and their alcohol, I’m not going to pay for a thank you card and postage just to say “thanks for coming.”

I was thinking of doing mine within 2 weeks. But according to most of the comments, I would be doing it too early? I don't have a ton of people coming to my wedding, peaking at about 100, so I was thinking maybe a few a time per day? Seems doable? Dang, now I'm questioning my ability to do it sooner rather than later.

The right thing is a thank you card - even if it’s late. A simple card thanking people for coming and their gift. Those who gave generously personally I would send first. Don’t forget to thank your bridesmaids/groomsmen too. And your husband should do them too. It simple-Dear Bob and Mary-Thanks so much for sharing our special day. We love the blender you gave us and we’ve already used it to make margaritas. (Or your generous gift will goes towards our honeymoon or down payment for our new house). You can say Sam thing in all of them basically. Do 5-10 a night and before you know it it’s done. Do a postcard if you want to save money.

Yes you have to write thank you cards and yes they have to be personal. They don't have to be long though. It's not to late. Most people understand with honeymoon and everything else they might not be right after the wedding. Please do get working on them.

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Write the people who gave you gifts thank you cards.

Send them! My mom still remembers every couple who didn't take the time to send a thank you. It doesn't have to be a super long hand written message, but you need to take the time out of your schedule to thank them, as they took the time out of their schedule to celebrate with you.

3 months is the timeline. I wouldn't not send them at all, that's rude. But you have time. Do a couple at a time and yes they should be personalized rather than a pre-printed thank you card. If it already has a phrase in it that's fine, but write something additional then.

I'd rather get one a year late than not get one at all. I think it's SO rude to not send one at all. I'd just start writing them now & work on a few each night until they are all done. Ours went out about 1.5 months after our wedding.

You really should send them within a few weeks, they don't take that much time. Even if you're late, send them - it is better than not sending at all. Only send to people to gave gifts.

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No such thing as "too early." Not sure who said that, but I think if you start doing them as you receive gifts (before wedding), and continue to do some everyday after returning from the honeymoon (assuming honeymoon takes place right after wedding), it will be soon enough.