Thank You Cards, Long Honeymoon

Definitely not your original plan. That would be lazy and rude.

If you are going to be away for 3.5 months, you will have plenty of downtime. Take your list of gifts and your thank-you cards with you and do a few each day, or attack the whole list while you are on the plane if you are flying.

I'd rather receive a hand written note late than an impersonal pre-printed note promptly.

And trust me it irks me when I spent all this time and money on people and get a generic "thanks" back.

A specific, hand-written note, promptly.

That is a crazy honeymoon lol. I just want to know where you're going?

Like PPs have said, either do proper notes during your trip, or as soon as you get back. I'd much rather get a personal note a little late than a generic one right away.

And yes, do tell us about this honeymoon!

Etiquette states handwritten note. This was my original plan. However, that quickly went away. My community doesn't even really do thank you notes 70% tbh, so even sending one is considered a step in the right direction. I had 180 thank you notes to write as we had a large guest list AND many people who didn't come/weren't even invited sent us gifts. I probably hand wrote the first 60 or so. This is difficult (although there are templates) if you don't know your guests really well because I personally find it hard to write anything more than a generic message anyways. Also, most of the gifts we got were cash so it was basically the same message over and over. Not a single person who I sent a hand written thank you card to let me know they got it/were excited.

I ended up find a great deal on zazzle on thank you cards and got them printed with a message and our picture. I've gotten a ton of texts from people about how excited they were to get our cards. I needed to personally speed things up with the thank yous because I'm moving states and didn't want to take any longer.

I think the ideal situation is handwritten personal note; however, depending on how many you have to do, it's not realistic to carry around cards with you and mail them from all over.

Honestly, I think waiting and doing handwritten is fine. Your guests will probably know about your long honeymoon, (at least I feel like if they're friends and family, they should) so they should understand. I wouldn't expect someone to take time during their honeymoon to write a thank you card for me, whether it was 2 days or 6 months, but I would expect them to take the time to hand write something personal when they get back.

If your guests can take the time to choose, find, buy and send a wedding gift, you can take the time to write a thank-you note. How hard is it really?

It was so good to see you both at the wedding. Thank you so much for the waffle iron. Lets plan a date when you can come over for brunch and we'll make strawberry waffles. Hope to see you soon.

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I'm not a big thank you card person, I mostly don't care, but it really turns me off when people send generic thank yous. If I take the time to come to your wedding and get you a gift, you can take 2 minutes to write me a personal note.

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It's a personal preference I think. I'm just excited when I get A thank you card at all. But for me, I'm more excited when it has a picture of the couple on it and that usually goes up somewhere in my house if we're good friends like a fridge or a board. When it's a handwritten note with no other pic it goes in the trash.

I think the ideal situation (for me) would be a combination of a hand written than you and a picture. If there aren't too many to write, I agree it should be handwritten.

Do your guests know about your long honeymoon? Maybe you could put a small sign at the card/gift table, saying not to worry but thank you notes will be sent 4 months after the wedding due to your long honeymoon?

I know a lot of people are against the idea of the generic "thank you" wedding picture as a thank you card bc "it's rude" or "impersonal." But I personally like receiving a picture of the newlyweds and I think in your situation, it could be a good compromise. But if you don't want to do that, I think waiting until you return is perfectly fine. I would presume that most of your guests are going to know your honeymoon plans anyway.

Don't bother sending a generic thank you. Not worth the card and postage.

Can your parents relay to you the presents and you write them while you are gone? That seems easy enough. Also will make them less painful to write

I guess, depending on where you are taveling to, you may be worried about the cost of international postage? I would probably write and address them on the plane trip/ other down time, then mail the whole bunch to a friend or family member who you ask before hand to drop them at the post office for you.

Just wait to open your gifts and write thank you’s. People will understand if they know you’re leaving for that long. Your personal handwritten note will be worth the wait!

As muriel said, if you're going to be gone three months, you'll likely have some time to write thank you notes. You could even use postcards from your destination(s). If not, wait until you get back. I would much rather that than a generic, fill in the blank card.

I had a friend go on a year long honeymoon, they sent postcards over the first few months to all their guests. It's easy to find time in airports or when you have a few minutes in the evenings to knock them out and they'll have a personal touch to them.

Otherwise squeeze them in before you leave or at the very least send them as soon as you get back. But yes, they need to be handwritten and personal