Thank you cards if they didn't give a gift

Start with those who did give a gift if you think more might be coming!

Also we had another thank you card thread and someone brought up a great point...a thank you might jog their memory if they meant to send a gift but forgot.

I will send a thank you to all that attend, other than random +1 I supposed. Generic. Special thank you for gift givers. It's all personal choice.

I wouldn't wait to see if a gift comes, just send them now, but be prepared to write out another one if a gift does come.

Even if they didn't give a gift you should still thank them for coming to your wedding

I had one person not send/bring a gift. I will be sending them a thank you just for being there to celebrate our wedding. It's why I invited them, anyway. :-)

If it were me, I'd do the first round of thank yous asap for those who have sent or given gifts. Since you're only 2 weeks after your wedding, I'd wait a little while before sending just a generic "thanks for coming" card.

That said, my wedding is 4 days before Christmas. My goal is to get as many thank yous done before Jan. 2nd (about 2 weeks after) since that's when I go back to work, but I'm planning on doing them in rounds:

-Gifts sent before wedding to have thank yous no more than 1 week after wedding

-Gifts given at wedding no more than 2 weeks after

-Final round sent no later than 1 month after.

If you take the same approach, I'd suggest waiting 2 more weeks before sending anything, just in case.

I would wait a month. I still got plenty of gifts until about a month after. I don't see a point in writing a thank you not to someone who came but didn't give a gift unless they travelled from far away. If you really want to, how about "Thank you so much for coming to our wedding and helping us to celebrate our big day. Husband & I are so glad you could make it. We hope to see you soon! Love, US"

You thanked people for coming to the wedding at your wedding...they don't need another thank you card for nothing after that.

I would wait! i agree with liza. it can come off passive aggressive to some people

I wouldn't wait to see if a gift comes, just send them now, but be prepared to write out another one if a gift does come.

Send a thank you note now. Then if they actually did get you a gift, they'll probably inquire as to whether or not you received it. It may have gotten lost or something. Still, even if they didn't get you a gift, they did come to celebrate with you. Perhaps there's some sort of financial situation going on...

I don't understand...why would you write a thank you note if they didn't give you a gift? I'm assuming you spoke with them in person at your wedding, therefore, no thank you note is necessary

Only if they send a "you're welcome" card after the reception.

Send out those for gifts first to give time. then send those who came even if no gift was received.

RE the "no gift, no thank you" comments: Please be careful how you define "gift." We had several relatives that traveled to attend our wedding and did not give a physical gift. Travel can be expensive and, for many of our relatives, it took serious budgeting/planning to make the travel possible. Frankly, I preferred to have them at the celebration. They ALL got thank you notes for travelling to join us.

Thank you everyone. I'm going to get all my gift givers thank yous out now. We're almost half way done! We did go and thank everyone for coming at the wedding.

We only had maybe 2 people not give a gift, and so they didn't get a thank-you card because we were raised that the thank-you cards are for presents. We thanked everyone for coming in person at the reception.

We had thank you notes in the mail the day we deposited all the checks (a few days after wedding).

Everyone that sent a card, gift or traveled got a hand written thank you for their gift. We are sending out "Thank you for coming..." cards when we get pro pics back.

eta: we have gotten a few gifts since the wedding and are just writing thank yous as they come in.