Thank you cards for non-attendees

Always send thank yous immediately. It lets the sender know it was received and eliminates the chance of them getting offended by the lack of response. You can still say "We will miss you at the wedding"

Always send thank you immediately after receiving a gift.

Agree with pps always send a thank you card immediately. There is no circumstance where it’s appropriate to wait.

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Okay, so if you send the thank you card immediately do you send another one after the wedding to thank them for coming? (For the guests who gift early)

Sorry, not sure on the etiquette on this.

View Quoted Comment Nope! Your reception is the thank you for attending. You only send a thank you card if you receive another gift at the wedding.

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Okay, perfect! So if they send a gift to the home and let's say gift a card of cash day of I could do an additional thank you. This was so confusing to me. Thank you for the clarification!

View Quoted Comment Correct! And no problem. I know it can be overwhelming at times!

Send Thank You cards out to the non-attendees avoiding the "We missed you" line and replace it with "We're sorry you won't be able to attend and appreciate the gift given ahead of them. You will be missed at our wedding. We do look forward to seeing you after sometime after we're married".

Hope that helps in the way of phrasing the way you were thinking of saying.

I would do it now just to get out of the way. If you wait til after your wedding you'll probably have a whole stack to get through so, etiquette aside, it might be easier just to tick off the people who have already given gifts as they come.

Send the thank yous now, just tell that that they will be missed at the wedding and you’re sad to hear they can’t make it.

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I like this verbiage, thank you!