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Thank you cards for guest you had to uninvite?

Kay, on October 8, 2020 at 2:32 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9
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We planned a 50 person wedding but had to cut it to 25 due to social gathering restrictions. I am trying to figure out the best wording for thank you cards for uninvited guests or guests who were not invited... we received alot of gifts/money from both!


Has anyone had to deal with this and can you give me an idea of what you wrote in your thank you cards?


Thank you!!!

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Latest activity by Vicky, on October 9, 2020 at 12:11 AM
  • V
    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I had a guest that sent me a gift, but she wasn't able to attend. I just said thank you for the gift. I didn't make a big deal about it. I don't think I would mention how you feel bad for uninviting or that's just going to remind them at they were not included.

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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I agree with Veronica, I would send a note saying thank you for the generous gift, and I wouldn't mention anything about them being uninvited due to COVID. Send a note similar to one you would send guests who were never invited to the wedding but who still got you a gift (such as coworkers, or friends of your parents, etc).
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    And by "guests who were never invited", I meant "acquaintances who were never invited".
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  • K
    Devoted October 2021
    Kristen ·
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    I was just on the other side of this, having been uninvited to a cousins wedding due to COVID size restrictions but still sent a gift.
    Thank them for the generous gift and let them you know that you are sad they could not be there to help you celebrate their big day for anyone who was originally invited). You don’t need to explicitly mention COVID, but it means a lot to be reminded that the couple wanted you there but their hand was forced.


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  • M
    Super October 2022
    Michele ·
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    A thank you card is a must anytime someone gives you gifts or cash.
    Do not mention anything about being cut from the guestlist.
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    I agree!! Just thank them for their generous gift like normal! Also everyone understands the limitations we're all going through right now, so I think it's totally fine to say that you can't wait to see them or celebrate with them once things are safer! Smiley heart

    For the guests who were never originally on the guest list - just thank them for the gift!

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  • Tanyia
    Expert February 2020
    Tanyia ·
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    If someone took the time to send you a gift, please send a thank you, regardless if they were at the wedding. Its the right thing to do - everyone understands covid restrictions.
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  • Kay
    September 2020
    Kay ·
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    Thanks everyone!


    Just to be clear I never said I was not writing a thank you card. I’m was just trying to figure out the wording of it.
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  • Vicky
    Super January 2020
    Vicky ·
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    Did they send you gifts before or after they were uninvited?

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