I was hoping to get onto my thank you cards and not let them pile up by writing them as I get our gifts. However, I am now wondering is it rude to have opened the gifts before the wedding and sending the thank you cards before the wedding? I was thinking for the guests who are attending the wedding I would wait, so I could add in any antidotes from the reception and recently seeing them but for those guests who are not attending- I am wondering if can send them now or is it better to wait till after? My fear with waiting till after is I know people worry if you have received the items or not.