Thank You Card Rule for Non-Attendees

Gift = card. That sucks

If a gift is sent the person gets a thank you card.

Gifts in any form or fashion should be thanked with a card.

They are still under the "3 month" limit. I'd give them some time. But yes they should send one.

Okay. Thanks. I don't know what the official etiquette was. I thought they would have been quick with the thank yous because their mother was frantically messaging me online for days, asking me for my RSVP and my entire family's RSVP, 1 week before we even received our invites in the mail. But I'll just wait it out. I'll still invite them to my wedding. It won't bother me.

I was thinking maybe they were upset because when her sister got married I was younger so I didn't give a gift, but attended the wedding. My mother gave a gift since I was still young. But we traveled out of state for that (which was a HUGE deal for our family). So I didn't know if maybe they didn't send a thank you because they were upset I didn't give a separate gift for the sister but this girl I gave a gift. I'm sure my mom sent a small money amount even though she couldn't attend.

So here's what you do: wait until December and if still unacknowledged, you ask "Did you get my honeyfund donation? With all of the hackers these days, I want to be sure you were able to (whatever you designated the $60 for, assuming that's how Honeyfund works)?"

Of course you know they got it. And they know that you know that they got it. But you're essentially saying "Beeyotch, I require a TY card for my effort!" That should light a fire. If it doesn't, they're toads.

They should have sent you a card.

Thank you cards should always be sent for any gift that is given. So yes, you should get a card. Hopefully she will come through. Give her a little more time though - 3 months from the wedding is the guideline for getting thank you notes out.

Thanks, I'll see what happens. I wouldn't mention anything to them or hold it over their heads. I was just curious on the rules.

Kathleen, you should have received a thank you card within 30 days upon recepit of your gift. Tha fact that it's November and you still have not received a thank you is rude AND tacky.

Gift = card, but I would give them up to 3 months after the wedding before the side-eyeing begins

BunnyLove- 30 days is not quite long enough IMO. It took me a little over a month and a half to write ours out

I just finished ours last weekend

I had lost some addresses plus a lot of crap going on.

They SHOULD send a card. but i'm noticing more and more people just, dont. they get buys or lazy and then just, dont. its terrible.

You sent a gift even if you didn't go to the wedding, they should send a thank you card.