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Thank you card for terrible guest

Caitlin, on October 6, 2022 at 9:32 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I got married 2 weeks ago and am finishing up my thank you cards. The only trouble i’m having is with one card. My aunt and uncle gave us some money so i want to thank them for that. But they were absolutely awful at the wedding. The showed up hammered, drank all the alcohol we paid for, stole a rented plate to take desserts home and were just so embarassing i had to apologize to all the other guests. All of my thank you cards have been personalized but i dont know what to say other than “thank you for the gift” i had a feeling they would be a little drunk but not to that extent. They dont get along with my parents ans i think they were so terrible because they thought my parents paid for the wedding. Any advice would be great.

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Latest activity by Michael, on October 7, 2022 at 3:16 AM

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Michael · on October 6, 2022 at 9:39 PM
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I don't have to address anything like this for another year. But it should be sufficient to say we had a wonderful celebration and thanks for the gift of some cash. There's no need to get into any other detail.
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Caitlin · on October 6, 2022 at 10:21 PM
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Thanks. I think I’ll address the rest in a separate letter.
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Bird · on October 6, 2022 at 11:19 PM
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“ thank you so much for the generous wedding gift. We are excited to put the money towards a new _____.”

Maybe something like this? I’m struggling within what else you could add in there to make it longer.
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Caitlin · on October 6, 2022 at 11:22 PM
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Thanks. I pretty much just wrote. “ thank for celebrating our wedding day with us. Thank you for the generous gift, we are planning on adding it to our honeymoon fund. We hope you had a nice time”
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Michelle · on October 7, 2022 at 2:57 AM
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I'd delete your first and last line as these are not sincere and shows you condone their behavior. If you actually had to apologize for them, then you certainly weren't okay with it. It's fine to make it generic under these conditions.
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Michael · on October 7, 2022 at 3:01 AM
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I agree with Michelle on this. My point was along the same line but with the edits she gave, it would be the honest one. They seem like guests that no one really wanted there ... but maybe it still seems like family. Or, they just are like this for parties.
Sorry. I really shouldn't draw out a response on the type of people they might be. It is not really best/needed that you should share that.
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Caitlin · on October 7, 2022 at 3:09 AM
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Unfortunately i already wrote out the last card that i have from the ones i had ordered. I’m just going to send it as is and i’ll write them a letter or speak to them in person on another day.
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Michael · on October 7, 2022 at 3:16 AM
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I missed that you had already written it out. I guess it is not really a problem sending that. My idea was just to avoid saying stuff that was going to be an obstacle to getting the card out. Well. Also to be a bit more honest in it.
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