Thank you Card etiquette?

You would still follow the same thank you card guidelines as with a physical gift. You thank them for the gift, say something about how you’ll use it, and then let them know you’re thankful for their presence. Keep it simple.

The thank you card is technically for thanking the person for the gift. The reception is the thank you for coming. However, you can write a thank you card for just coming. For the monetary gifts, we just wrote something along the lines of "thank you so much for your generous gift."

View Quoted Comment This. And thank you cards are for gifts. The reception is your “thank you” for attending the wedding.

I got a ton of monetary gifts and i never mentioned any amount in it. i just said thank you for your generous gift, etc.

You only send a thank you to people who sent gifts ( or checks) or went out of their way to be helpful ( services). You mention how nice it was to see them at the wedding if you like, in the Thank you note. But you do NOT send thank you notes to people who just attended your wedding. That is backwards, the opposite of the right thing. When someone gives a dinner party or other party, the guests thank the host afterward with a thank you note. Or they bring a small hostess gift, and write a note expressing their appreciation. At weddings, it is customary for anyone who knows the couple ( not dates) to give a fairly large gift. Way more than a thank you for inviting me to your party, I had a wonderful time type note. Sent well before or just after the wedding. That covers it. They do not need another thing, a thank you for inviting me. And the couple writes a thank you. But anyone who does not bring a gift, should be writing a thank you to you for inviting them to your wonderful wedding. You just spent $45-$210 on them, and invited them to a nice place, with good music and company and all great stuff. Guests thank hosts. Hosts don't thank guest for occupying a chair, eating their food, drinking their booze, and such. So as the hosts, do not send thank you notes except for gifts and services. Now at some point after all thank you are done, you may want to send a newsy letter, or pictures. The first correspondence of your married life. But not a thank you note. If they have any manners, those who came to your wedding and did not bring a gift, will send you a thank you for the party. Or between the time you return from your honeymoon, will send a gift. Which is okay etiquette. And for that, you write a thank you.

View Quoted Comment Any ideas on the phrasing of it? We only got monetary gifts. I ask you, specifically, because I always agree with your advice on this forum.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Judith! I shall sally forth with my thank you notes!

Thank them for attending even if they didn't bring a gift.
Acknowledge the monetary gift and maybe tell how you're planning to use it.

View Quoted Comment I honestly think that “thank you for your generous gift,” is fine. Your guests will understand why it’s not super personal.

For monetary gifts, thank them for their generosity and explain how you're going to use it (you can be generic here). For example, ...we're going to use your gift to help establish our home together.

If you want to say something different from “generous gift” for money I’d maybe tell them what you are spending the money on? I did this when I graduated and received money. I would say things like “thank you for the generous gift, we plan to use it towards (redoing our kitchen, our honeymoon, new kitchenware, etc)”. I feel like it makes people feel good if you tell them what their money went towards (you don’t need to but it’s more personalized!)

If they paid cash, I agree with PP - it was great to see you. Thanks so much for your generous gift. We are going to use the money to buy a new coach, for a new car whatever big or small.

You technically don’t need to send a card just for attending. But you can send a card (I plan on having one with a picture from our wedding) and say Thanks so much for sharing our special day. We were so happy to see you and appreciate you coming from out of town.