Thank You Card Etiquette- Who to Address to?

Send the thank you to the household. You cover all your bases that way, and you don't know that the men of the household didn't help pick out the gift.

Address your thank you note to whomever was invited in the household. Even if the woman chose, purchased, wrapped and sent the gift, she did it on behalf of those who were invited.

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Yes, definitely agree should go to all those who were invited, just not sure regarding the husbands or other male members? With families its easier because I can just address the family but for couples, especially older couples, where finances are much more likely to be intertwined.

Whoever was invited to the shower should get the thank you note....

I agree that I would just address it to the entire household. You're more likely to offend someone by not being included, than to offend them by accidentally including their husband (or whoever), who didn't pick the gift.

Every time my mom and I have gone to a shower, it’s addressed to only the two of us (the only people invited from our household). When I have my shower, I will only address people who were invited, unless a card specifically says other people’s names as well.

The actual wedding though, I would do the entire household.