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Just Said Yes September 2021

Terrified of venue commitment

Claudia, on September 3, 2019 at 3:33 PM Posted in Planning 0 8

Hello. My FH and I were engaged on July 4th of this year, and are currently planning a wedding for Fall 2020. We have visited so many venues and have made so many compromises that I don't even know what our dream wedding is anymore. One venue we visited early on we really enjoyed, but it is really close to budget and is about 2 hours away from the majority of the wedding guests, myself and FH included. I'm terrified that if we decide to book it (we're having a hard time finding our dates now), I would regret it immediately. My mother thinks it's too far away and inconvenient while my father and FH parents are perfectly ok with anything we choose. I really don't want to push the wedding off for another year, but I feel like that's starting to become the only option in order to find something we actually like that is within budget. I don't know what to do.

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Latest activity by Liz, on September 3, 2019 at 6:07 PM
  • Jill
    Expert April 2020
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    I would go ahead and book it if you love it! 2 hours isn't that far and you could set up a room block for guests to stay in the same town afterwards. You also already have majority of the parents down for it, the rest will come around. If they really want to be there then they will make it work.

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  • Kimber
    Devoted June 2020
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    Don't book it! If you are already on the fence, it's your gut trying to tell you it's ok to pause. Consider moving the timeframe up or back, and try some of the venues here on WW. It's too big of a risk if it isn't right!

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  • Karla
    Dedicated July 2021
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    I agree with Shannon! If something is telling you not to book that venue, don’t. More than likely you’ll regret it down the line and wish you chose somewhere else. Who know maybe the perfect one will come sooner than you think. Good luck!
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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
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    I was so frustrated trying to find the right venue. Everyone I thought I loved was over budget or limited our guest list even more than the severely scaled down version we already had. It felt like we were never going to find the right one. We finally found it when I expanded my search a bit, it is perfect and fit the budget. I say keep looking and try looking at alternative venue options.

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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated April 2021
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    I agree with PPs. Finding the venue was definitely the most stressful part for me. My venue is about 3 hrs from me. While I love it and am very excited, it takes a toll on gas, money, and time to drive there what has been every month the past 3 months to meet with vendors (since vendors near me would be too far or require expensive fees for additional distance).

    If you're in love with the venue and can't imagine it being elsewhere, then book it. Otherwise I'm sure there will be something you can find more local and close to your price range. Best of luck!
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  • Melissa
    VIP September 2019
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    If you love it and it fits your budget, book it. Don’t worry about what other people think and the distance. If they want to be there, they will make it work.
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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2020
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    I agree with PPs that if you’re not sure now, you should steer clear. Venue regret is real and changing venues can be tricky.
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  • Liz
    Devoted June 2021
    Liz ·
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    Personally I don’t think is too far. Especially on a Saturday where guests can stay overnight. You’ll do room blocks and all will be fine.
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