Terrible anxiety about dancing

You can see if there's a Groupon for dance lessons. Or if you're part of a gym, hit up a couple of their Zumba classes if they offer them. (No joke, 89 percent of my dance moves I learned in Zumba classes in college.)

You could also have a private first dance. Do it before you go in to the reception, put some music on one of your phones, and just dance by yourselves and enjoy the moment together amid the chaos. As long as you aren't too anxious about dancing with your FS, I think it would be a nice way to enjoy one of the first times alone as a married couple.

Practice at home and take some classes. I have horrible social anxiety and hated everyone watching us dancing so I just stared at him as much as I could and pretended no one else was there. I don't remember ever noticing anyone even looking at us because I focused on him so much.

Take dance lessons, and possibly go out and dance other places to get used to it. During the actual dance, just concentrate on your husband and enjoying it, forget anyone else is there.

I'm the same way! Honestly, don't take dance lessons, you'll just feel like you aren't doing it right or you'll be nervous and forget how to dance and feel awkward because it isn't natural to you. I practiced with my husband and dad for like a month we made up a little "choreography" basically just spin when they say this line or step 3 times this way for the chorus and other than that we just swayed. We had so many laughs while practicing that it made us less nervous for the big day because we started to associate it with just having fun. When the day came we focused on the words of the song to listen for our cues to spin or whatever so that stopped the anxiety of people watching because we were focused. My dad even sang the words so I'd laugh and my husband and I did the same for our song. Even though our dances might not have looked like what you see in movies, they were clearly so full of love. Anyone could tell that my dad and I are best friends and my husband and I were made for each other. So don't think about how you have to impress people or try not to look silly and instead find a way to make it fun for you.

There's no rule that your first dance has to be in public. I get that you want to overcome your anxiety, but I think it's fine to allow yourself to feel anxious about this without trying to fix it (since not wanting to dance isn't something that greatly impacts your every day life).

What about a private first dance as your first look (with or without photographer) or immediately after the ceremony? Or, have your DJ immediately invite everyone to join you on the dance floor so you aren't in the spotlight?

Practice at home or take lessons.