Tension between my siblings and my fiancé

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I guess my biggest question is why does your sister hate your fiance? I would maybe discuss her feelings. Wedding or not, he is about to join your family so it's important to figure out why she hates him and see if there is any way to clear the air or come to some sort of understanding.

It's tough to provide good advice without a little more context - do you know why your sisters hate him? Was there a particular incident? For whatever it's worth, bridal parties are totally optional, so while it stinks some of your bridesmaids can't or won't make it (thanks a lot, COVID), it's ok to just let that go and move forward with the rest.

My sister and I have discussed why she hates him and let’s just say her views are different than mine. Yes who my fiancé is is different but he treats me well despite his troubled past.

My sister hates my fiance and is made I'm marrying him so she honestly doesn't even speak to me anymore cuz of it. In my opinion it comes down to my happiness! I'm happy and excited to be getting married to the person i love and if she doesn't like it well that's just to bad. Idk why people can't just be happy for their siblings.

View Quoted Comment Did you still invite your sister to the wedding? I’m running into this issue too where my sister has completely disowned me as her sister and hasn’t talked to me since January because I went to see my grandma during covid. She just has a different view and is an extremist and I’m super upset about her just completely “disowning me” and now I don’t want her as my moh or in my bridal party and not sure how to handle this whole thing. What did you do?

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I haven't sent out invitations yet but I'm still gonna invite her and she has the right to say yes or no. If she declines, then that's too bad. She will be talked about after the wedding. I feel you; my siblings are racist and elitist. I would say either find a replacement MOH or make adjustments with your wedding party. Some weddings go for the non-traditional route due to COVID and have a small wedding party or no wedding party at all.

View Quoted Comment I’ve already asked my best friend to be matron of honor and I figured best case if she came around they could share the title but honestly with all this time going by I’m just over it and I realized she’s not even accountable even for the other weddings she was in and so I’m cutting her completely from my party. I haven’t told her and I just planned on going about things like normal since she’s not made any effort to talk to me anyways. I think you’re right with inviting to the wedding and letting them either come or not and then it’s not on you. Thank you for sharing! I know the wedding will be amazing regardless but it’s just hard to get past the whole idea I’ve had my whole life that she would be a special part in the wedding as a whole and now here we are...life is crazy lol but I guess we just have to roll with the punches

View Quoted Comment I didn't invite her to my wedding. I only wanted my nephews there honestly. I don't want to her there if she can't respect my fiance

View Quoted Comment Yeah if she doesn’t have respect for your significant other then they don’t need to be there. I’m so sorry you have to deal with that