Tension between Bridesmaids

The last wedding I was in there were 3 bms and a MOH, we all HATED, like completely HATED, the MOH. She is just one of the worst people ever. But, as adults, we dealt and did not let our friend know how much we hated her MOH and she had no idea until after the wedding. Your friends need to figure it out and get along for the sake of the wedding. I would not worry until there is something to worry about. They all do not need to be friends, but for you, they should be able to act like adults and make things as much fun as possible. They may surprise you, I would not over analyze it until it happens.

Hi Melanie! I honestly have a similar situation with my friends, I have one who is very blunt and speaks her mind, which I love, but others think it can be too much. I agree with the above comment, until something happens between the other BMs and her, I wouldn't worry about it. Hopefully they are able to be adults about this situation and learn to get along despite their differences! This is your day and I would hope that they would want to make you feel as special as possible without any drama!

I'm a very blunt person, but I also know that there's a big difference between voicing my opinion and being rude. Just because I, and your friend, have opinions doesn't mean we always need to voice those opinions. Perhaps the other BMs are feeling left out because you place so much emphasis on the one BMs thoughts and suggestions. I'd try to schedule one on one time with each of the other BMs. The BMs and MOH are also going to have to grow backbones to stand up to the blunt BM when and if it comes time to plan a shower and bachelorette.

No matter what your group dynamic looks like, even if everyone is bffs, it's a good idea to have a pre wedding chit chat where you list the do's and don'ts of the big day and the days leading up. On your dont's definitely mention leaving personal issues and pettiness out of your big day and express how important it is to you that everyone gets along and saves the confrontations and snarkiness for when you're far far away on your honeymoon

Thank you all. I'm trying to maintain sanity. I just wish everyone gave her a chance you know. I had to swallow a lot of their weddings and I never let anyone know if I had an issue with something. I think what makes me even more pissed is that they come to vent about her to me. If I don't get offended with a comment made or in my view a suggestion why should anyone else. I feel like its a battle for who gives ideas or suggestions. I dread group events with everyone together and it sucks!

They don't have to like each other. Many of the girls in bridal parties don't even know each other. They can survive walking down the aisle, taking photos, eating and dancing and mingling with people they do like for the night.