Tell me I'm not alone!

Yea I think planning logistics of such a big event can be stressful

Try to step back and breathe. Us brides get so caught up in the little details and honestly, at the end of the day, they aren't what is going to matter. I got married last July and I can't tell you how the tables were laid out or the color of the napkins or what kind of shoes my bridesmaids wore. I remember crying tears of joy when walking down the aisle to my now husband. I remember the feeling I felt as he read me his vows. I remember the heartfelt toasts our maid of honor and best man gave. I remember having a wonderful night celebrating love with all our friends and family. Don't sweat the small stuff because, truly and honestly, you will forget about it after the day is over. Heck, I almost forgot about the boutonnieres until it was just about time to start.


Create a to do list. Try to get through x amount per week. If you don't accomplish those tasks, it's ok. If you're having a hard time, enlist your fiance's help. It's as much his wedding as it is yours. He can handle picking out odds and ends too in order to take some stuff off your plate. Also, we're in the midst of a global pandemic. It's ok to be stressed and anxious and not as productive as you'd like to be.

It’s gonna be okay! It looks like you still have over a year to plan. I had 15 months to plan and I had to constantly take week-long breaks (sometimes I would go a full month!) from planning anything.


Definitely try to tackle the big stuff like venue, catering, and photographer first. Then move to next set of important stuff.
Don’t get too caught up in DIY and decor until after you get a better idea of what vibe/style you’re going for. Trust me— I started buying random stuff because I thought it would look good and my wedding aesthetic changed so much throughout the year that I have so much decor I didn’t end up using. Haha
Also, make your fiancé help. I was super Type A and wanted to control everything. And my husband let me make all the decisions (which was awesome yet frustrating!) so I found myself overwhelmed at times. I finally gave him tasks like: figure out room blocks, find shuttles/transportation for our guests, wedding party transportation, groomsmen outfits. Even those little things will help alleviate some of your stress.

You are not alone in the wedding planning. It can be very stressful. Sometimes you have to step away from it and go back to it. Just accomplished a little bit at a time

It sounds to me like it may be a good idea to hire a Planner/coordinator if you haven’t already.
They can take care of all of the small details for you!

I think right now everyone is in such a difficult time that it makes us not want to do anything. Being that you are getting married in 2021 you have lots of time to plan; take it slow and everything will be okay My wedding is supposed to be at the end of June (hopefully). Though I am unmotivated to keep going with the little things I still push myself to do so. When I am feeling down I go on youtube and watch wedding videos; this makes me so happy for my day. This can also help you with what you want and don't want for your wedding. It might help to also break things down. Start with the Venue and the photographer (since brides are rescheduling this will be the most important thing for you to do!) Then come up with ideas for tables and decor! I hope this helps and that you feel better about things soon! It is an exciting time to be engaged and it goes by fast!

I did the same thing at first ,but once you step back and take a breathe you will realize a lot of the little things don’t matter or aren’t worth the money. It took me awhile to realize it but once I did I was able to calmly think about what me and my fiancé want out of the day and that’s when I started to see I was stressing for no reason.

Girl. You are NOT alone! I've done almost EVERYTHING alone! Planning. Booking. Inviting. ETC. I have ZERO help from any family/friends/FH. Family is too busy. Friends could care less. They just wanna party or their bitter cuz they're divorced. And FH says, "Do whatever you want." I get criticized because our wedding is 8/13/21 and I've been planning things for awhile and everyone tells me, "Stop going crazy over the wedding stuff..." or "You don't even need to do that right now." I am a planner. I dont want to wait til last minute. But I wish I had someone to help me give me insight, etc.