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Teen Step Daughter Roles in Wedding

Rebecca, on November 6, 2024 at 5:10 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 1

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I am getting married to a wonderful man on 5.31.25. He has two daughters but only one is in his life right now. In the beginning of planning the wedding, the one that lives with him said to her dad "if you love me, I AM going to be in the wedding."
My relationship with this daughter has been strained. Sometimes we get along. Other times we can't even look at each other. I try to show her love and attention. I spend a lot of money on her to take her places and treat her to nice things, and she doesn't appreciate any of it. She makes agreements and lies to my face. She disrespects me in everything I saw or do. I don't trust her at all right now and definitely don't think I should have to have her as a bridesmaid standing behind me when she hasn't been respectful or supportive to me. I also don't like feeling like she is only in the wedding because she manipulated her dad to think he has to do that for her.This daughter is 16.Is there anything else I can have her do besides stand in the bridal party?

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Latest activity by Ellie F, on November 18, 2024 at 5:04 PM

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Ellie F · on November 18, 2024 at 5:04 PM
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Hey there -

Blended families are really hard; and teenage girls are hard. I think you should really defer towards having her in the wedding...even if she is a pain. She lives with your fiance.. which means you'll also be living with her - that's really really hard!
What is your bridal party size like, and are their any other girls her age? Could you make her a junior bridesmaid with other family? You don't have to get ready with her, or have her join in on all of the adult bridesmaid activities, or have her come to vendors or dress shopping with you. What are you worried about that she might do (wrong) to ruin your wedding if you make her a bridesmaid? You could always also have a back-up friend or cousin. Otherwise I think you're starting your relationship with your new step daughter off on a really really bad foot.
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