Taking it personally

Thats a pretty good number so far! I understand wanting everyone to be there to celebrate, and i'm sure they all wish they could be!

I've taken it more personally that our deadline is 02/15 and 50% of our guest list still hasn't RSVP'd.

I wouldn't take it too personally. There are any number of reasons why a guest might decline - unable to travel, not ready to attend events yet due to COVID, health issues, conflicting plans (maybe another wedding they need to attend, or a family event, or work, etc). Instead, let those who decline know that they'll be missed, and then focus on celebrating with those who will be there!

Don't take it personally. My FH's sister, her 4 kids, and husband aren't coming. She was so upset about it that she was actually crying when she told me. The reason is that 3 of her 4 kids are too young to get the vaccine and she is terrified of them getting COVID. She is also the primary caregiver for FH's grandmother, who is immune compromised and on Chemo.


You can't know what other reasons someone might have for not being able to attend. It hurts (a lot) and is disappointing but try to be compassionate.
Also, 61/75 is really good for RSVP's! That is a high turnout.

I don’t take it personally because I know when I’ve declined weddings, it’s rarely personal! Precious little to do with the couple and more to do with what’s going on with my life at the moment

I took it personally when people changed their RSVP from 'will attend' to 'declined' the week of our wedding, and only 2 members of my family showed up (mom & uncle). But I will tell you that the day of your wedding, you'll be so happy and enjoying being with everyone that you won't be bothered by it. Your RSVP ratio is actually really good!!

I’d agree with others that you have a pretty good rsvp ratio! I can understand being a little hurt/offended. After my fiancé’s sister got married and didn’t invite the extended family, there were a lot of hurt feelings, so my fiancé and I made a point to invite them all but the grandmothers seem to be on the fence about coming. I understand with COVID and then living far away why they are on the fence, but it can be frustrating when guests make a big deal about being invited but then don’t come. But I’m pretty sure on your big day you won’t care about who’s there!

I’m getting married 4 hours away. I don’t know how many people out of the 70 we invited will come which makes me sad honestly

That sounds like a good ratio to me! I understand taking it personal, and I probably will too but just remember there are a million reasons why someone might not be able to attend and, unfortunately, COVID makes everything more complicated. At least think of it this way, it's less people you have to go around and thank, which means more time for partying! Focus on those that can attend and having the best time with them!