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Taking his name

Victoria, on August 20, 2020 at 7:39 PM Posted in Married Life 0 35
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Has anyone felt weird about taking his name and giving up your maiden name? I do want to take his name instead of hyphenating but it just feels weird being called something else.

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Latest activity by Maria, on September 2, 2020 at 5:47 PM
  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I kept my name. I just didn’t feel like hyphenating it and I didn’t want to lose my name either and both of our last names rhyme so it just sound weird in general
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  • L
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I'm planning to keep my name. I don't want to hyphenate it, and I don't really want his last name lol, I don't like how it sounds with my first name, so I'm keeping mine.
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    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I changed my name. I already have two middle names so hyphenating it would've been way too long. We also want to have children so I wanted all of us to have the same name. It was weird at first being called by the new last name, but you will get used to it. I've been married for a little over a year and I still sometimes catching myself saying the wrong last name.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    If you want to take your FH’s name, there’s really no way around the weird beginning phase while you’re getting used to it. I think that’s pretty normal. You have been called the same thing for your entire life after all.
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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar February 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    For me personally, I'm taking my FH's last name. I'm the only one in my immediate family with my last name. Even after my mom's divorce she kept her married name. It would be nice to have a matching last name with somebody lol. Plus our kids will have his last name so it only makes sense. At least to me. It's not uncommon these days to keep your maiden name.

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  • Monica
    Devoted August 2021
    Monica ·
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    I feel this! I'm just starting the process to change my name now after going back and forth for a long time. It's so weird and I keep not responding to my (new) name or forgetting to introduce myself correctly. You're not alone!
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  • Julie
    VIP February 2020
    Julie ·
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    Yeah it's weird. I dropped my middle name and made my maiden name my middle name. People still call me my maiden, hyphenated it (dunno why they do but 🤷‍♀️) or my new last name. I answer to all three, lol
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    Dedicated February 2022
    Tiante ·
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    My name is hyphenated 8letters-8letters I have an older son who has my last name & I couldn’t justify making him the only one in my household with a different last name. I use whatever last name I want except on legal documents
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  • Erin
    VIP December 2020
    Erin ·
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    I've been ready to get rid of my last name since I was in middle school xD I can't wait! I do wish I was changing it to something that worked a little bit better with my first name, but I fell in love with the guy, not his name lol. No apprehension here.

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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    I’m changing mine in the US, but I may keep my maiden in Europe (dual citizenship) .
    I love my middle name and hyphenated wouldn’t sound right.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    This is a second marriage (for both of us) and after getting my maiden name back, I knew that I would never drop it again. My last name had been with me so long and I actually kind of missed it once I got married and changed it. So this time I’ll hyphenate because I still want to keep and see my maiden name and add his.

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  • Amanda
    Dedicated October 2020
    Amanda ·
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    I’m keeping my name and adding his to the end. No hyphen. I started my own business and my last name is part of my business name. I feel this way my last name is sorta interchangeable. Plus I love my last name and most people mispronounce and misspell his most of the time.
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  • Minimalist Bride
    Master April 2021
    Minimalist Bride ·
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    Yup, it would be weird. I've decided to keep my last name. I have never agreed with the American tradition of the woman taking her husband's name upon marriage. The tradition originated bc women were actually property of their husbands in the past. 😰



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  • Futuremrsn
    Devoted October 2020
    Futuremrsn ·
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    I’ve been with my fiancé for 7 years now and I am so eager to change my name to his! I love my last name but for me it’s tradition, and ever since I met my FH he has been the best thing to happen to me, and I will wear his name with pride and love. On top of wanting to share the same name with any future children we may have! Do what you feel is best and right for you! You can always change your mind and decide to take his name later on.
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  • A
    Expert October 2021
    Ashley ·
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    I don’t believe in it. To me, it’s an outdated and sexist tradition. Taking someone else’s name isn’t something I’d ever be willing to do, and I could go on forever about my reasons.

    You need to do whatever is best for you. Don’t worry about “tradition” or what anyone else says. It has to be something you’re comfortable with and that you want to do for your own reasons.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    I kept mine. I heard some women move their maiden name to their middle name. Is that an option?
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  • Laquita
    Devoted July 2021
    Laquita ·
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    It's understandable, you've had your last name your entire life & in one day it'll change to something else completely. I was just telling FH last night that it's going to be super weird to be called 'Mrs...", I can't wrap my head around it lol For me, because my last name is really special to me, I'm going to hyphenate it.

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  • Rebecca
    Rockstar August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I kept my name. I like it, I have a career under it, and there aren't any males in my generation.

    MIL kept *her* name, so me changing my name didn't even cross DH's mind.

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  • Bo Miller
    Expert December 2020
    Bo Miller ·
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    I am taking my FW's name. It was never really much of a discussion I don't have a connection to my last name and she does to hers so it was a no brainer.

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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I hyphenated (Maiden-Married). I am established in my career and I am an only child, so I did not want to completely lose my maiden name for those reasons. I pretty much still use my maiden name at work except for when signing documents. And we have decided our children will also have a hyphenated last name. Even that has taken some time to get used to. When people just call me by my married last name, sometimes I forget they are talking to me Smiley laugh .

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