Table seating arrangements

Do you have any family members that like one another, or do they all literally dislike everyone in the family? If you can find some that get along, group them together. Those that don't like or can't get along with other, group them with family friends or friends that they either have no opinion towards, or do like.

View Quoted Comment I do have a few that do t really get along. Can you tell me an easy way of how to place my guest at the tables. I would like to have 8 or maybe 10 people per table.

Try to see if you can group them with others that do get along. Or even if you have to seat random friends, co-workers, family that haven't met yet, etc. Just to keep the peace.

View Quoted Comment Thank you heather

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You could start by grouping couples together that get along, or putting them will other couples they do like or don't have a big opinion on. You can then set them up by 4-5 couples at a table. Then branch out to those that are getting a plus one, and single guests.

Also like Heather suggested, it's easy to set people from different life groups that haven't met one another yet!

Just remember that they'll only be in these seats for the dinner/beginning portion of the reception. Guests usually wander around after all that and rarely stay seated the whole wedding.

View Quoted Comment Okay great, I will start making a seating chart starting with couples first. Thank you

View Quoted Comment While I didn't have the issue of family hating each other, I did have to figure out how to arrange people in a way that made sense and made them comfortable. What I did was write every couple or guest on an index card. Then, I started by organizing people into groups. For instance, I put together all of my friends from grad school in one group, friends from high school in another, family that gets along in another, and so on. I would make tables of 8-10 of those groups. For anyone who didn't neatly fit into these categories, I thought about if they had anything in common with other people (like I had 2 women from work who I invited, so I paired them together but had to figure out where to put them so they wouldn't feel super uncomfortable). The index cards made it much easier for me to see how it all played out and made it easy to make changes and stuff.

If you feel they wouldn't get along seated with other family, you can seat them with your friends or other people who have common interests. For example I have a cousin who's very nerdy and socially awkward, and probably wouldn’t mesh with the other cousins. But he would fit right in with my fiancé's friends who are computer geeks, so I'll seat him with them even though he's techincally part of the "family" group

I totally hear you!! I had the same problem for our minmony this past Oct and will again for the redo/renewal/reception this October. After spending so much time and stressing out... my now husband said "just put them in seats and they need to figure it out". In my case, everyone behaved because they realized that they were there to support us. If they are special to you, they only want the best for you... and with that being said, they need to put their big boy/girl panties on and behave. I have to say... those that "weren't speaking" to each other had a good time and I'm so glad I didn't completely stress over it.

View Quoted Comment I do there are just 3 of them that don’t get along.

View Quoted Comment If it's just 3 of them I think it would be really easy to just seat them at separate tables. Unless you're having a tiny wedding with only 15 people or something.

View Quoted Comment Yes I will do, thank you