Do most people do a unity symbolism: candle lighting, sand blending, lock box to open in the future, etc. The officiant asked what/if we planned to, but we hadn’t thought about it. We are getting married outside near a lake, so candles aren’t a good idea. Thoughts? Suggestions?
Totally up to you! There are many options (sand, whiskey blending, tree planting, etc). If you can't find anything that goes with what you want, it's totally fine to skip it! Here is an article with a bunch of ideas for a unity ceremony: https://www.theknot.com/content/amphtml/unique-unity-ceremony-ideas
Alot of people feel the vows are the unity ceremony. I personally have never seen any mini ceremony (candle, etc) at the ones I have attended. But they're common somewhere. Do what works for you and skip it if you don't want it.
I've never seen any couples do a unity ceremony other than candle lighting as part of a Catholic ceremony. The whole wedding ceremony is a unity ceremony, so you really don't need to do anything else if you don't want to.
While "unity ceremonies" have gotten more popular in recent years, I have seen plenty of weddings without them and definitely wouldn't say "most people" do them. I wasn't interested because, to me, the vows are sufficiently unifying. Have one if you want, but I wouldn't feel pressured to do it just because your officiant is asking about it. They are just doing their job to help you plan.
We decided against having one. I dislike a lot of clutter and didn’t want to have sand art or an object that we felt obligated to display in our house. Instead we handed out roses to our mothers and step-mom to acknowledge the joining of families. Simple and sweet!
We did a glass unity ceremony because it was a way to include our kids and to show we are creating a new family unit. We each had a different color of glass crystals that we combined. We then sent the mixture back to the company and they will create a glass sculpture and will send it back to us for us to display in our home. Www.unityinglass.com
We did a Unity Cross at our wedding. My husband put the vertical piece on the board, I put the horizontal piece, and we both put the nail in the center. The pastor noted what each piece stood for before we placed them on the board. It was quick, easy, and we were able to hang it on the wall in our home!