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Brittney
Just Said Yes October 2022

Switching your Maid of Honor

Brittney, on January 5, 2022 at 5:52 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9
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Hi everyone!! I apologize for the long post in advance.


So I've seen a couple of these posts before but I need someone else's opinion.


My fiancée and I got engaged in June of 2021. I was so excited about planning a wedding that I made some impulsive decisions about my bridal party. I initially chose one of my best friends to be my maid of honor. She is one of the reasons my fiancée and I are together now. The problem being is that some of her actions recently makes me want to change me mind. After some consideration, I want my mom to be my maid of honor as well as walk me down the aisle.


I need help. What should I do? How do I tell my best friend that I would rather her be a bridesmaid instead?


Thank you in advance Smiley heart

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Latest activity by Brittney, on January 6, 2022 at 1:37 PM
  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
    Jasmine S. ·
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    If you "demote" your friend, be prepared that it could end the friendship and she won't want to just be a bridesmaid at all.
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  • CountryBride
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    CountryBride ·
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    Maybe you can add your mom as a co maid of honor
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  • Cece
    Master October 2023
    Cece ·
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    I don’t think I would strip your MOH of the title. I would just make them both co-MOH‘s
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  • J
    Super March 2022
    JA ·
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    Maybe she can be MOH and mom can be Matron of honor? I agree with PP, demoting her could really damage the friendship, so it really depends on how much you care about her feelings about it.

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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    There are countless posts asking this same question: brides ask the wrong people way too early and wonder how to remove them without damaging the friendship. Unfortunately you can’t. It’s why it’s strongly recommended to not ask any attendants before 6 months before the wedding. Once you start rearranging positions and reconsidering original choices, you have already set the course in motion for the friendship to end. Leave everything as is. Then your mom can sign the marriage certificate as your legal witness.
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    Devoted April 2023
    Peyton ·
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    A title is just a title. I would leave the maid of honor the same and just add “Mom of Honor.” Your maid of honor can be as involved as much or as little as you let her. Hopefully, she will start making better decisions

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  • Brittney
    Just Said Yes October 2022
    Brittney ·
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    Thank you for the advice. I have decided to keep my friend as the Maid of Honor while my mom will be the Matron of Honor.

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  • Brittney
    Just Said Yes October 2022
    Brittney ·
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    Thank you for the advice. I have decided to keep my friend as the Maid of Honor while my mom will be the Matron of Honor.

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  • Brittney
    Just Said Yes October 2022
    Brittney ·
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    Thank you all for the advice. I have decided to keep my friend as the Maid of Honor while my mom will be the Matron of Honor.

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