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Just Said Yes January 2018

Surprise Wedding/Elopement for FH

Gissel, on November 12, 2017 at 11:22 AM Posted in Planning 0 15
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I posted before my story as to why I chose to surprise my fianceé of 9 years (11 years together total). I originally planned on having our parents show up for it in San Francisco. As it turns out they won't go and I actually don't feel bad about it because they never have supported us. I actually believe it's even better, I am saving myself a litle over $1k. I am pissed though, that we were there for his sister's wedding even took the day off, and she doesn't want to do that for ours, his mom won't go because she takes care of her daughter's (2) children because her daughter her husband are lazy to care for their own children, my mom and dad don't want to because they also have to work, though we've always had an estranged relationship. Well, I say f*ck all of them, all I need is my fianceé, it was merely courtesy that I invited them. Well, it means more fun in SF.

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Latest activity by Amandaw, on November 13, 2017 at 12:30 AM
  • Mrs_J
    Super September 2018
    Mrs_J ·
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    Congrats?

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  • FutureMrs.L
    Master September 2018
    FutureMrs.L ·
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    Ummm Congrats?

    Are you engaged? Why the surprise wedding? How will you get the marriage license?

    Not everyone can take time off work, there's responsibilities. A wedding is not tit for tat....

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    What? You're planning to surprise your boyfriend/FH with a wedding right after New Year's Eve, and you're mad that people can't travel? Are you engaged? If you aren't, what makes you think this is what your boyfriend wants? And who wants to get married without their families?

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  • Daniella
    VIP October 2017
    Daniella ·
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    This doesn't make much sense. Considering paperwork, it's almost impossible to "surprise" your FH with a wedding. Without enough notice, people may not be able to make it.

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  • Mrs.Whooooo
    Master May 2017
    Mrs.Whooooo ·
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    Nas- you're right, both parties do have to present to apply for a marriage license.

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  • Ashley
    Dedicated March 2018
    Ashley ·
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    Are you sure your FH would be okay getting married without any of his family present?

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  • MrsMcK
    VIP September 2017
    MrsMcK ·
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    How is this going to work?

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  • Kourtney
    Beginner December 2017
    Kourtney ·
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  • Kourtney
    Beginner December 2017
    Kourtney ·
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    Dup

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  • Elizabeth
    Master December 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    Going by your last thread about a surprise wedding, you two have a little girl together. Why are your families so opposed to your marriage? It doesn't make sense. Is lack of notice the reason they can't come? Why have they never supported you?

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    Just Said Yes January 2018
    Gissel ·
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    They've known all the time, they have always known we've been trying to get married and because of them we've had to cancel twice before our wedding. My parents have some mental problems, I never lived with them but for 4 years until they kicked me out while I was in the middle of college. His parents have always had it against me for some reason, they even asked him to break up with me years ago and when we were going through tough times they suggested I must have been cheating at one point. They even treat my child as if she were less than their daughter's children and my mom hardly wants anything to do with her.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    Skipping all the drama in between, the wedding can be a surprise to your family and his, but it can't be a surprise to him. He's got to be part of getting the marriage license.

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    Just Said Yes January 2018
    Gissel ·
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    We have both agreed to to get it in SF to make it more romantic, we both made the appointment for it.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
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    Honestly, just cut ties with them. If they are going to create a toxic environment, start your new life together by cutting ties with the toxic relationships.

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  • Amandaw
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    Amandaw ·
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    Ok I'm confused. Is it a surprise wedding for your fiance or for all who are attending? If it is for the ones attending and they think it is just a party then of course they won't take off work for it

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