Superstition

I'm definitely paranoid about other people having pictures of my dress. My mom wanted to take some with her phone and I said nope

View Quoted Comment Lol ! That’s another thing I only want my parents with me for dress shopping

Yes! I can’t help but think about the episode of friends where Monica shares her wedding details, and that lady blackmails her. No way!!

I think I am paranoid too. I feel like every time I tell my future MIL something I have decided, she is judging me. And she has asked me at least 3 times if I am registering for China, which is a big NO.

Okay, you should be able to share as much as you want to.

With that said, you have to know who you can share certain information.

Congratulations!

Yes yes yes. I do not share details with people at all. I have friends getting married soon who showed us that they will take any idea we have and use it. He took my fiancé’s proposal idea for me and used it to propose to his fiancée. (They obviously got engaged before us, and my fiancé thought he could trust him since they have been friends since high school) After that we decided we wouldn’t share any details once we got engaged.

Yes! I am refusing to share any details about my dress, even though I’m having a destination wedding and most people I know aren’t going. I am also sharing very little details otherwise, but more because I want the element of surprise than actual superstition. And I really don’t care about anyone else’s opinion, nor do I feel the need to consider it as it’s neither of our first wedding and we’re paying for it ourselves, so I’m completely avoiding potential drama.

I feel the same way! I’m Mexican & I’m already stressed about my wedding because my family will literally talk crap and anything and everything. They are so hard to please & so judgmental😓

I've come to the conclusion that people are going to judge me regardless...so I really don't care anymore. I mean...I'm going to be 40 when I get married next year. People judge me for that. People are all like "Oh is this your second wedding?" and think I'm nuts when I tell them no...it's my first and will be my only... I never cared much about getting married until I met my FH. I had been in long term relationships previously but never had the desire to be legally tied to that person (I guess I should have realized it was a bad deal at that point but I'm a slow learner sometimes....lol) They judge me because I'm DIYing it all including the food (with the exception of the clothes and the rings) and keeping it casual, low budget, but fun and that I refuse to go all out and spend everything I have and more on a half a day party...

They have every right to their opinion just like I have every right to ignore that opinion. I had a friend try to tell me that I shouldn't do what I have planned for my wedding...that I should do it x way...I've learned to say "Thanks for your opinion, but we're good." and keep going on with what is going to make me and my FH happy. It's our life, our wedding, and most importantly our wedding and we will do what we want for our event.

View Quoted Comment I can relate with that ! So now I keep my mouth shut lol it can be very annoying

View Quoted Comment I know how you feel. I will be 29 in 3 weeks and according to some people I should of been married with kids lol . When I was single I was told that if I don’t hurry up I would be alone for ever just because of my age . And all those same people are either single or in bad relationships ironically , I took my time in dating because I didn’t want to settle u know . It is never too late to get married

I am super protective of a lot of information. My FH has a friend that is also engaged and him and his fiance are starting to look at venue's and I told my FH, don't you dare tell him where we're getting married. Our date is pretty far out and I'd hate to have someone else get married at our venue that we know before we do. We share very minimal information. Element of surprise is something that I like. WW knows more about my wedding then associates/friends in real life LOL!

View Quoted Comment Omg yes the one with the dress! Lol

View Quoted Comment Lol! Same I share all my diys and Info here cause I feel like I get more genuine excitement ( not that I don’t get that from my parents ) but u know

View Quoted Comment For me it was very similar...everyone in my family has been married and divorced at least once if not 3 or 4 times... They all pretty much rushed into it because that's what society said was supposed to happen. I decided that's not what I wanted. I don't want a collection of ex husbands...I will live my life my way and screw societal"norms". This will be both mine and my FH first wedding. We'll both be 40 when it happens... Neither of us have kids... Society already thinks we're nuts so we're rolling with it! 😂😂

View Quoted Comment Yes! It freaks me out lol

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I love how you said that "They have every right to their opinion just like I have every right to ignore that opinion" You are rocking it girl! Everyone can get a little judgey at times.. I even find myself judging others too harshly. We will all have different but amazing weddings!!!

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Thank you! I, too, find myself getting caught in the judgey crap but I keep actively reminding myself that although someones ideas may not be my style, it could be theirs and who am I to judge and potentially make them feel bad for their choices. You're right, we will all have amazing weddings. I love looking at all the pictures on here. Seeing all the genuinely happy smiles makes it that much better. It may not be my style but they are still beautiful events!