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Just Said Yes October 2020

Super Small dw

Stephanie, on August 18, 2019 at 8:23 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 6

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I recently got engaged and we have decided to have a really small (10 people or less) destination wedding in Maui. It is a 2nd marriage for both of us. He has 2 grown sons whereas I have none. My elderly parents are alive where his are not. His sons and my parents cannot really afford to attend and my parents would need assistance getting around. Is there anything wrong with having just him and I, maid of honor and bridesmaid, best man and a groomsman at the wedding? We just want a small, stress free ceremony on the beach. What are your thoughts?

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Latest activity by Lady, on August 19, 2019 at 3:24 PM

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Melissa · on August 18, 2019 at 9:40 AM
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I really don’t see anything wrong with the small party. I would make sure he’s ok with not having his sons there & talk to your parents to make sure they’re ok with it. You can always plan a wedding celebration dinner at home for your parents & his sons before or after your wedding.
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Cyndy · on August 18, 2019 at 10:10 AM
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I agree with Melissa. I would talk to your family and his to make sure they understand what your plans are and are all ok. You can always do something special with them when you return but there’s nothing wrong with a small intimate wedding.
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Jessica · on August 18, 2019 at 11:10 AM
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Were going to to a small immediate family parents grandparents and 1 standing up on each side total of 18 people, that's not finalized yet being we havnt started to plan yet. But it is expensive he had a very small family and well on my mom side she's one of 9 siblings with a 20 year difference. We can't afford it, unless if someone's rich. But we arnt
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Samantha · on August 18, 2019 at 2:26 PM
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Make sure FH is on board with not having his son there, then talk to his son and your parents and make sure they understand. But if your VIPs are on board then there’s no issue.
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Cher Horowitz · on August 18, 2019 at 5:32 PM
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I personally think it's something to first ask your parents about - make sure that they're okay with not attending the DW. Then you can go from there
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Lady · on August 19, 2019 at 3:24 PM
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If you're truly ok with not having your immediate family there, then sure this is fine. I personally would not be. But if there would be any regret or hurt feelings I would probably get married locally with sons, parents, and your small bridal party and then honeymoon in HI. For me it would definitely be more important that my very close loved ones be able to attend vs. getting married in a certain location.
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