Sunday destination wedding rude?

Don't feel guilty. Have your wedding on Sunday if you want to!! Save $5000. If they are important, they will be there. I'm taking a day off work for my friends wedding in VA. That's what people have vacation days for. I would save the $5000 that's is a TON of money. If it were just $500, that may be different. But $5000?! Have the wedding on Sunday.

We were in the same predicament.

Check in with your VIP's ( the people you know you must have there) and see what they say. We are having ours on a Thursday and most people are traveling from outside the US to be there. I talked to them before booking anything. Most of them are planning to take the week off and go to disney the weekend after my wedding so they seem happy. We saved a total of 7k having ours on a thursday.

Honestly, having a destination is inconvenient enough. If your VIPs are willing to travel to your destination (a trip that will likely involve time off from jobs, etc), a different day probably won't make a huge difference.

My parents just went to a destination wedding in San Diego (they live in Ohio) on a Friday and used the opportunity to take a vacation there for a week. Even though Friday was not convenient for them at all at that distance, they still made it work.

I definitely don't think it is rude. However, it may be inconvenient for some of your guests. I was facing the same dilemma, and my VIPs all said they would make it no matter what. Typically, the people you care about most will support you. Also, five thousand dollars, at least to me, is a significant amount of money. I think it is a good reason to change the day. Last thing since it is ending early no matter what you don't have to worry about the party vibe or as many people leaving super early. Ultimately, I decided to have my wedding on Saturday because I wanted more of a party feeling, but I wasn't saving nearly as much money either.

I think people should have their wedding on the day they want to have it -- whether the reasons are budgetary or not.

Okay...here's the other side of the coin. A DW (at any time of the year) will see a bigger pile of declines than a local wedding. It goes with the territory, and it's something DW brides have to accept without resentment. However, on top of a DW wedding, your wedding is one week before Christmas. That last week is filled with commitments and stress -- not to mention social and professional Christmas parties, the winter concerts at school, church festivities, last minute shopping, feast preparation, house preparation for Christmas guests, etc (I'm well acquainted with what happens every year during that week because my birthday falls on December 17. Everyone is smack in the middle of Christmas). It's a time of year that eats up a lot of discretionary cash as people spend it on gifts, traveling, and vacations. I would get your STDs out early, but keep your expectations at a realistic level and try not to take it personally if Christmas puts a damper on the RSVPs.

All things considered, one day will probably make no difference at all in terms of who will or won't attend. So, I would definitely go with Sunday, save yourself money, and know that there are those in your family who wouldn't miss it -- even if the wedding were on Christmas Day.

It's definitely not rude, but has Centerpiece pointed out, you're setting yourself up for a lot of declines; about three things that your are doing (wedding that requires travelling for all of your guests, Sunday, and a week before the holidays) are all high risk for many declines. Do not take it personally if it does happen, even people who truly want to be there may have to decline because of the upcoming holiday.

Just because people want to attend doesn't mean they can. The "they will be there if they are important" just isn't true.

Not everyone can get the day off, some people have limited vacation time, etc.

One of my stepdd's decided to get married at 5 pm on a Friday, in May, in the capital city of our state. Right during rush hour, and it was a school day. The aunts and uncles on the other side of the state declined because they weren't pulling kids out of school for a wedding. 2 other aunts had to decline because they are teachers and by contract there is no PTO during the last month of school. My oldest DD was in her 90 day probationary period of her new job. Absolutely no PTO during that 90 days. She couldn't attend.

If my stepdd had moved her wedding to around 6:30, most of those people would have been able to attend. "If they love you they will be there" is a fairytale.

@Jeleebeez EXACTLY. I cannot stand this mentality. There is no one to fill in for me at work - I've had to turn down plenty of events that were important to me.

You're totally fine doing a Sunday wedding, but have you thought about a Sunday wedding where it's a Monday holiday for (most) people? Like memorial day or labor day? You will get more "no" rsvps on a Sunday, but if you're comfortable with the date and your most important people (family, best friends, whatever) can attend, go for it.

Have your wedding when you want, but understand that you might not get a high acceptance rate. If I had to drive or fly 3 hours to attend a wedding, i'm sorry but I would not go if it was a Sunday unless it was family...and honestly even that is a stretch. If you can make $5000 work I would recommend you do that or find somewhere to cut to lower the cost if having everyone you love there is important to you.

Regardless, people are going to have to take a day off of work - either Friday to fly down in time for your Saturday reception, or Monday to get home from the wedding. If it's that drastic of a price difference, do the Sunday wedding. Do be prepared for a higher decline rate, though. It's a DW so there will be a lot of declines already, and people will decline for it being on a Sunday. However, it's your wedding, so do whatever you want to do.

Oh and I just saw your date... you're getting married really close to christmas, which means higher flight rates...and people will have holiday plans.

Seeing that I would really encourage you to change things up.

I think for a Sunday DW wedding, many people will make a weekend out of it. However, I think your bigger problem is that you're getting married RIGHT before Christmas when budgets are very tight, people are very busy and travel is a nightmare!

Also-- change your avatar!!!

I think that you need to consider if you are making it extremely difficult for your VIPS and the people that you really want to be there to be able to make it. of course you can choose whatever day you want to, but i choose a saturday because i wanted the most amount of invited guests to be able to make it.

I would check with those who will be flying in. If they don't mind then I don't see a problem. I agree that your decline rate may be a little higher than a local wedding.

You can have your wedding whenever you see fit - you need to understand that your choices have repurcussions and choosing a DW on a sunday will ultimately result in a lower acceptance rate. I would check with those people you think are most important and see if they can make it. Unless you were close family I would not travel the weekend before Christmas and have to take a Monday off work. I think that will be your biggest issue. That is an extremely expensive time to travel and would be very difficult to miss work.

I think either way people will have to take Friday or Monday off because it's a destination wedding so it might not make a difference. If you can have your rehearsal Saturday afternoon or night VIP's can also fly/drive in on Saturday morning so they don't have to take both Friday and Monday off of work.

People who want to come will make an effort, but things happen all the time. Some people won't be able to come. I have seen plenty of post for low decline rates in the summer on a Saturday. You need to do what is best for you. However, I think you should talk to your VIPs first. If people really care they will make an effort, but that is all you can ask for.