Suits

As long as they look similar, that's fine. Black suits are pretty universal and don't look too different. Most men rent them from one place for a similar look.

I agree- as long as they look similar. We’ve already purchased my fiancé’s suit- the groomsmen are wearing just a vest, long sleeve shirt & slacks. The tie & pocket square will match what color their partner is wearing.

View Quoted Comment Thanks! Yes I feel like black should be easy to match.

I am very OCD about things like this so it would annoy me, but as long as you don't have the same personality as me then it should be fine.

I think it's completely fine for the groom to not match the groomsmen, but my opinion is that the groomsmen should at least match each other

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OP, I think telling your guys to wear a “blank suit” is a fine option and allows the groomsmen to wear a suit that will allow flexibility to budgets and body types. It’s exactly the same as giving bridesmaids a color and length and leaving the dress up to them. I can see them being very grateful for the flexibility.

I think it's fine to have to groom wear something different than the groomsmen. That's like the bride wearing her dress and the bridesmaids wearing their dress.

My fiance is wearing a suit for the ceremony and then tux for the reception. The groomsmen will wear probably just a suit the whole time.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I assumed it would be the same type as bridesmaid dresses. I don't see the big difference. As long as it's the same material and same color I don't see the difference. We'll get ties and pocket squares from the same place but that's about it.

Yes that’s fine. I had mine just get gray pants and a white dress shirt and they looked pretty similar. It might be like one or two that different shades but overall it was all compatible

There is no reason any 2 need be an identical match. Never was. If you want a coordinated looking group, stand back far enough to see all of 3 side by side. 7+ feet. If anything screams look at me, take it out. 1 in zebra stripe shoes, or a green lapel, out. But anything you have to look at back and forth to compare this and that, is fine. That was the advice of the first head of wardrobe I worked for in a ballet company in Europe. ( In school.) The cut of the lapels, and the length of the waistcoat, should each be different to flatter the wearer, that is most important. I have been to a couple weddings that were mostly great, in spiye of Covid. Bit everyone whispered to themselves about calling it the return of Pee Wee Herman. The groom, and best man, looked great in the shorter jacket, buttoned higher, cit close, because they were thin, shoulders to butt, and had shortish arms. But one father and 4 groomsmen and an usher looked like fools in a style that could never fit their bodies. Jacket to tight to fit, get a bigger one. All in the name of getting "the same". Normal adult clothes have variation to flatter the wearer in a much-money society like ours. That and the usual gag, having black suits all in a row with tangerine ties, pocket squares, and vests, which means the bride and her dad ( grey silk access.) and almost all the men there were wearing the formal wear they were asked to wear, very dressy dark suits. And most of the men's side bridal party was dresses a level down, half matching BM dresses, costumes. That is a wedding industry silly fad, like all the men in blue basketball sneakers. But it greatly takes away from the impression of formality. Whether one has a grey tie that is great with their suit, and another black silks, or one has slash pockets and a longer body, does notatter to the overall cohesive look of the wedding party. But changing out the menswear accessories that go with formal wear, for matching girl's dresses for accessories, that is something that is a huge formal wear faux pas. ( No matter how many tv shows and influencer articles that show it.)