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The only people responsible for planning a wedding is the couple getting married. Unless they hired a planner.

If your best friend is the bride, hand over everything you’ve done so far and tell her she needs to take it from here. If you’re the bride, ask her for anything she has and you & your fiancé should be 100% focused on finishing your wedding planning.

From your post I’m not sure who is getting married and what she left you with to offer any other ideas??? Need more info.

Wait what?? I'm confused.. And your profile says YOU have to pay for the wedding?? And you're the MOH?

View Quoted Comment Whoa. I just read her profile.

Cindy, you do NOT pay one dime for your friend’s wedding (except to buy your MOH dress). SHE must plan her own wedding. Tell her no thank you for the job offer but you’ll be happy to stand by her side as MOH on her wedding day (if you’re available because only two weeks notice is ridiculous).

She would not be having a wedding.

If she has asked you to be her MOH and needs some help planning, that is fine. But you are not responsible for planning her entire wedding and you are absolutely not responsible for paying for it! This is her wedding and it is her choice to rush it. I would tell her you are happy to help her with planning things or running errands, but you will not be fully responsible for the planning or the financial side of it. If that is not acceptable for her, than I would politely back out as MOH.

This is totally outrageous. The only time anyone other than B or G bears any responsibility is if they are disabled, or not able to plan because in another country at war, or in a hospital, or other thing where that pass it to a friend. I have done that a few times, twice in the last year. But even then, months of notice, and I sorted things out to, pick one of these 3 menus, venues, floral displays. And they made choices. For a blind couple in Denmark, marrying here near families and friends and living here after schooling abroad. And a sighted couple, her family of mine from Greenland and him in the middle of an ocean, Navy, until 2 weeks or so before the wedding. I suppose if someone were in jail? But just expecting you to do it because they are busy or what???. I would do them the favor if checking where and when to get licenses, and look up whether they go to city Hall, county seat or courthouse, to a clergy in their Church, a Justice if the Peace, or a Judge . Look up what makes it legal in their state, print it on an index card, and whistle "Here comes the bride " as you walk away.

View Quoted Comment Thank you and I never should have said yes,but I just bought the flowers for bouquets,My husband is awesome and in the store picking out flowers,it was cute, but I need to learn not to be the one who always helps, thanks for your time and help

View Quoted Comment You are completely right but we have been Best friends for a long time and we are both there for each other and she does work.Im don't cause I can't on disability.

So really, you want suggestions on what to do, not on how to get out of it? Still find out what makes it legal, when license must be obtained, and who can perform the marriage in your state. Because some have waiting periods, and it would be a shame to find out a day before the wedding, that they have to wait 5-7 days. Or arrange to be at a courthouse during the 3 hours a day weddings may be done. And some churches have counseling requirements. And it helps to have a divorce papers or one indicating previous spouse is deceased. If they want to marry, small group of guests, in a church, many times a chapel is available, though the main church may be booked. And the smaller space is easy to decorate with just a few flowers, real or silk. Most churches have a supply of vases and such, you just have to ask. How many people do they want at the wedding? Would they like it in a nice public building, courtyard, or park? These can be very good deals. How formal or informal does she want to be? Dresses can be bought off the rack, wedding dresses, or just a nice special occasion or party dress.
People ( including me) started out upset this has landed on you. But if your gift is to do a simple wedding for your friend, give a few more answers about what you want, and people will tell you helpful ideas, or places to try to get what you want .

You're in no way responsible for this. If you want to do it though then if I were you I'd just make it a ceremony that's cake and punch after and no reception.

View Quoted Comment Cindy, being long time best friends doesn't with somebody doesn't make you responsible for their major optional life events financially. Especially if you're on a fixed income!!!!! That was so inconsiderate of your "friend" to even put that burden on your shoulders.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been friends, it’s not your responsibility. Does her fiancé work? Why do you have to pay for everything?

It’s hard to say without knowing the back story of what happened.