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Devoted October 2019

Substitutes

Bridget, on August 24, 2019 at 9:30 PM Posted in Planning 0 4

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So my mom’s friend’s husband will be out of town for our wedding. So on the RSVP- she is bringing her daughter. I’ve met her daughter once for 5 minutes. I was a little annoyed at first but it’s moms good friend but from a different circle so she won’t know anyone else, so I get wanting to have someone. Then today my fh gets a call that his cousin can’t come, but his sister will be here. She wants to bring her friend since her brother cant come. I’ve never even met either of his cousins let alone her friend. (They live like 800 miles away) He told his mom it was OK and honestly yeah it is ok because the wedding was already heavier on my side and now for medical issues quite a few of his guests can’t come. But seriously, we invited who we invited I wasn’t expecting substitutes. 🤦🏼‍♀️

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Latest activity by Yoice, on August 25, 2019 at 1:26 PM

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Jeanie · on August 25, 2019 at 3:12 AM
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I get your frustration. But think of it this way, no one is trying to actually add guests, they’re only replacing someone new for someone who can’t come. It’s not adding to your budget either. No one really wants strangers at their wedding, but honestly you’ll be too busy to notice. If it’s going to avoid drama, it’s totally worth it to just let it go.
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Kelly · on August 25, 2019 at 4:44 AM
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It happened a few times to us too, in FH side bc they are mainly OOS. It doesn’t bother me, as the guest count didn’t change, plus I’ve never meet many of the OOS relatives. I just wished they included their full names on the RSVP so that I could properly update the guest list and place cards.
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Keri · on August 25, 2019 at 1:03 PM
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It happens unfortunately. We are just sending out invitations this week but I've already heard that someone's boyfriend can't make it so she's bringing a friend.
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Yoice · on August 25, 2019 at 1:26 PM
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I understand is frustrating but at least they’re not adding people they’re substituting them so it doesn’t make a difference budget wise. As far as not knowing them I see it as a way for those coming from far or even close to have someone there for them. If it was you then you’ll probably also want to go with someone instead of alone. I get it is weird to have random people or family you don’t really know but there’s nothing you can do now and I think is not worth stress over that.
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