Stuck between Eloping or Postponing

That's such a personal decision. I also think it's a bit too early to decide on end of May weddings. I'd personally wait until mid-April to see what the guidelines look like to better make a decision.

View Quoted Comment I agree it is a bit early, but my venue said if we do decide to postpone til later in the year it would be better to do that sooner rather than later. Just wanted to see what other people are thinking of doing since I can’t seem to decide! Lol

My wedding is the same day! I went back and forth too but im planning on eloping with a small group. I can’t imagine waiting to get married and it’s so stressful not really knowing when all of this will end. I just want to be able to move on and start our life together

We decided to cancel our wedding because every day seemed like knew restrictions. My fiance also can't make it to the wedding because the military gave them specific guidelines to follow. We still are getting married on or close to our original date. My father became an officient and we are making plans for a ceremony of just my parents, my fiance, and myself. Once everything gets lifted (hopefully sooner than later), we will take the money that was refunded/not spent and quickly remake plans out in arizona. At this point it will be a vow renewal, a much better photography session in redrock, and a nice dinner at the venue we had originally chosen. These are tentative plans that we could execute easily once we have a time frame. It is one of those, call the new vendors and see what dates they can pull something together and we will show up and hope family can meet us. Not ideal but I can't go through this again. I want simple and easy.

I'm May 30th and I've been going back and forth all week. I want to give it more time before making a decision. But also don't want to miss out on new dates I would be interested in. I really want to get married May 30th regardless. But then I go back and forth on what is the point of having a party later and that yes I want to have a party later. Sorry I'm not any help, I can't make a choice either.

View Quoted Comment I feel the same way! Planning everything was already stressful enough 🙄😭 FH and I just want to get married at the end of the day, I just can’t stop thinking of grandparents. I know it isn’t necessarily about them but it’s hard not to think about what others want! So torn 😭

View Quoted Comment I really like the vow renewal idea. I don’t think I’d want to do a reception later in the year, it just wouldn’t be the same. But I vow renewal is something we’ve been thinking about! Especially with how much we want to use our vendors. I agree though that planning one wedding is tough enough already, muchless a second one!!

View Quoted Comment This is exactly what we are going through too. I’m afraid if we take too late to reschedule there won’t be any dates. But FH and I also can’t imagine not marrying each other on May 23 now either so we just have no clue what to do. Sometimes I’m like F this let’s just elope all that matters is us! And other times I’m like but what about all the family and friends. Seriously hate that we are all going through this!! 😭

View Quoted Comment We had a small wedding planned (17 guests). I told my parents that once we are able to have a "real" wedding that it will be parents only. So we will plan a nice dinner but it will be minus the musicians the cocktail hour, the cake, etc.

View Quoted Comment Exactly that constant roller coaster of emotions and thoughts!!! Its terrible😭 good luck girl, this is not an easy choice. I think I have to wait a few weeks or I'll regret it if my date ends up being fine and I moved it prematurely. But ima be a ball of stress and a moody witch on a roller coaster until then!

I am doing both. We are still getting married on 04/09/20 but postponing the wedding to 08/27/20.

We were deciding between that until we tried to get our marriage license (our date is 5/15) and all the offices are closed until further notice and now California is "stay at home" status. Not sure when they'll reopen and I don't want to stay in limbo. Looks like the original date I planned for won't work in any regard. So I definitely recommend seeing where you can still get a license (if you haven't already) if you're considering eloping.

View Quoted Comment Me too! It’s definitely very hard for me knowing whether to invite them but I hope they will be able to make their own decisions about their health and risk and we’ll reassess when it gets closer to our date. This is such a unique situation, all my family has been so understanding and supportive about my decisions and I hope yours would too

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I hope all goes well with you! It’s comforting to at least know I’m not the only one going through this!

View Quoted Comment That’s what I feel like we will end up doing, I just hope we can get our marriage license in time! They are only valid for 30 days in my county or I’d go ahead and get it 😭

View Quoted Comment Yes that is our main concern. My county only allows marriage licenses to be valid for 30 days which sucks so bad. So I’m stressing about waiting even longer to get it. Definitely not the ideal situation but at this point I seem to be stressing about everything! 😭

View Quoted Comment We picked ours up today.

5/23 here! We are 100% waiting a few more weeks (3?) before making any decisions one way or another. We're continuing to plan as if nothing is changing so that we're ready should the date be fine! Things change so quickly that I would be devastated if we were to make a rash decision right now only for these regulations to be lifted in 7 weeks. I also know that my venue doesn't have any dates that work for us later in the year (they only have either winter or weeknights, which we're not interested in) so I know we won't be missing out on a good date if we delay our decision.

Hope that helps!!

View Quoted Comment That definitely helps! We are really trying to be optimistic and I like your approach to just wait and see what happens. We try to remind ourselves that at the end of the day all that matters is us getting married! Still impossible not to stress about haha

Hi there!

We are getting married October 2nd and made the decision to postpone the Church wedding and reception to a later date and are instead planning to elope in the mountains with immediate family on our original date. There is truly no end in sight to this, and even if it were to disappear by May we think the long term consequences will last last that. About 70% of our guest list is traveling from out of state and we would completely understand the weariness in traveling in addition to the financial impact everyone is experiencing and will bear with plane tickets and hotel rentals. I wish you all the best!