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Struggling with Procession

Ana, on May 4, 2021 at 11:41 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
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If you all come from a blended family, you will probably understand my struggle.

I have no idea how to coordinate the family portion of the procession. My sister is my MoH/the officiant for our wedding, so she will enter first, probably with FH?

So here's my conundrum y'all. My parents are divorced, FH's mother passed away about 8 years ago, and he has 3 sisters and, of course, his father. My father is playing procession music (he did at my sister's wedding as well, this is getting to be a tradition which is super sweet) and my mother is walking me down the aisle. So, I've got that figured out so far.

I suppose my question is to those with blended/less traditional families: how did/are you handling and organizing the family portion of your procession? Are you including it at all? Help!

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Latest activity by Danielle, on May 7, 2021 at 1:15 AM
  • Nicole
    Devoted August 2022
    Nicole ·
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    I have divorced parents who are remarried. On one side I have my dad, step mom, and a half sister. On the other side I have my mom, step dad, and step brother. And then of course my two brothers. My FH and I plan to keep it simple. We'll be walking together down the aisle, no groomsmen or bridesmaids, no flower girl or ring bearer, no family, just us.


    If we had a wedding party or someone was walking me down the aisle, we'd include those people, but still not general family.
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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Normally, unless they are part of the wedding party, siblings don't walk in the processional. It usually goes parents (and maybe grandparents), then bridal party, and then flower girl (if having one) and the bride last.
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  • Ana
    Savvy July 2021
    Ana ·
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    Yes, both my parents are remarried as well. Definitely something that's been difficult to navigate. We will of course have out wedding party walking in pairs, bridesmaids & groomsmen, MoH& Bestman. It's the parents part that's been tripping me up and I've thought about just not having it at all.

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  • Ana
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    Ana ·
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    My nephew is our flower boySmiley flower It's going to be so stinking cute.

    Yes, wasn't sure about siblings, thanks for clarifying. FH may walk in with his oldest sister who may be stepping in as MoG.

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  • J
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    Judith ·
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    First, except when they are part of the ceremony, the seating of grandparents then parents is part of the prelude, not part of the procession. The prelude music is timed to allow open seating plus special seating, , plus a few minutes for late arrivals to duck in after the parents.
    It is usually called the seating of the mothers, but is done for couples together or in a standard social escort, as you would see in a fancy restaurant or theatre.
    Brothers, sister, cousins seat themselves any time they arrive, with an usher or without. Special seating is usually done by a family member, grown son, uncle, brother etc, often chosen by grandmother or mother as her escort.Standard escort: the escort extends one elbow to Grandmother beside him, and grandfather walks behind. Step parents go before regular, going by the women, and if they have a SO or date, he walks behind. This is true ofall parents' seating. You do not leave out non-family members who are with your grandparents or parents for the evening. So special seating leads off with step grandparents of either side, then grandparents either side, then parents of either side. Different groups have a different order of whether groom's parents go first, but that is usual, ending with the mother of the groom, father just behind, and last is MOB, with husband just behind if he is not walking the bride ( or MOB has a new husband or date, that person walking behind.) After a few minutes and last stray guests, the processional music begins, bridal party coming down the aisle. First, for many, the GM and GM will file in to their place by the altar. In others, the clergyman enters .

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  • Brittany
    Dedicated June 2021
    Brittany ·
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    We're just having the wedding party in the processional. Groom, best man, MOH, flower girl, bride with escort.

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  • Allie
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    Allie ·
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    My parents are divorced, but my dad is walking me down the aisle. So what we are doing is having his parents go first, then my mom with her fiance, then the bridal party. My FH is choosing not to have his groomsmen walk down the aisle, and the only sibling he included in our party is his sister as his best woman, so she will be up there already with him.

    Entering the reception however is a different story. I've talked to my mom's fiance because we are pretty close and asked him if he minded that I just have my mom and dad walk in together because my dad currently is single and kind of shy and I'd feel bad having him walk in alone. My parents are still friends, though, so there's no animosity there. My mom's fiance is really sweet and said he was completely and totally fine with that. So when entering, my parents will enter together and then go their separate ways to their different tables.

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  • Danielle
    Savvy September 2020
    Danielle ·
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    So, my two older brothers have a different dad than I do. When my middle brother got married our mom was married to her third husband, so my brother had my mom and her current husband walk out together as a couple. I escorted my dad/his stepdad, and then my brother's dad walked out with one of his other daughters. The other two sisters were already
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