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Just Said Yes October 2020

Struggling + disappointed

Tori, on March 8, 2020 at 3:49 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 7

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Hi y’all! I’m feeling super anxious and nervous about my upcoming wedding. I had my bachelorette party this weekend and it was super disappointing and now I’m worried the wedding will be the same. My sister who is my MOH planned a weekend in Nashville with my help and a day before we planned to leave, my bridesmaids called and wanted to change plans to stay in Memphis. We ultimately decided to do that and I tried to just be calm and go with the flow. They didn’t put any effort into planning activities or ideas of what to do except trying to find a place to stay which fell through last minute and they didn’t even tell me. My sister and I again planned the entire thing and it was really thrown together. They didn’t seem excited to celebrate or anything so it was hard for me to be in that mindset. At the bars last night most of them looked miserable even though it’s definitely their scene and on their phones but then said “you just don’t seem drunk enough.” Idk what to think and I’m trying to just let it go. But it’s leaving me feeling very disappointment and worried about the wedding. I hate the thought of feeling disappointed with my wedding and I’m feeling very anxious that I will and it won’t be fun or how I’m expecting. I guess I’m just looking for some encouragement because I don’t really feel like there is anyone who understands how I feel.

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Latest activity by Pirate & 60s Bride, on March 8, 2020 at 10:47 PM

Master November 2020
Kristen · on March 8, 2020 at 3:59 PM
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I'm sorry your bachelorette wasn't disappointment but at the end of the day The Bachelorette is hopefully plan by the bridal party whereas you and your fiance have control of your wedding. The devil wedding people are definitely very excited and sometimes the bridal party doesn't always set the expectation that we as brides may have. I'm sure your wedding will be fine.
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Rebelle Fleur · on March 8, 2020 at 3:59 PM
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I’m sorry you didn’t enjoy your bachelorette party. But just look at it this way. It was unpleasant it’s over now and you can move forward knowing what you want out of your wedding and who will be there to actually support you. I’m planning all of my events to avoid stuff like this happening. Sometimes unfortunately if it’s not someone’s own event they don’t feel the need to go the extra mile. I wouldn’t dwell on it. You’re marrying your best friend. That’s what’s important. I’m sure your wedding will be a beautiful affair.
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VIP October 2021
Monica · on March 8, 2020 at 4:03 PM
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Im sorry that happened. Honestly I dont think it was fair for you to change your whole plans just because of one bridesmaid wanted to stay closer to home. The least she could have done is helped plan things to do/places to go especially since you completely changed ur plans. I know how it feels to be disappointed and it really sucks and I completely understand you thinking if they are acting like this now how will they act at the wedding. The only thing I could say is maybe tell them how you feel. And hopefully they will keep your feelings in mind and do what they can so you Dont feel like this on ur big day. The other thing is on ur actual wedding day you will have FH with you and hopefully he can ease ur nerves and u can enjoying The day with him instead of worrying about your bridesmaids
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on March 8, 2020 at 4:16 PM
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I'm sorry you're feeling disappointed, but Nashville was devastated by a tornado less than a week ago so, I can only imagine that wouldn't have made for a great party either. It seems like your friends did their best to change plans so that you could at least have something.
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Just Said Yes October 2020
Tori · on March 8, 2020 at 4:31 PM
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Thanks. That helps a little bit. I feel like more of it was their attitudes and the little effort they gave (other than my sister) rather than the fact we didn’t do everything I wanted or it wasn’t the exact way I envisioned. Especially when my group is usually who plans parties and events and goes all out. But I think the best thing is to focus on the wedding and staying positive.
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Melle · on March 8, 2020 at 4:54 PM
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I’m sorry it didn’t come out the way you hoped. Honestly my bachelorette there were moments I was disappointed too but your wedding day for sure might come out better
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on March 8, 2020 at 10:47 PM
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I can totally understand your disappointment. On your wedding day, stay focused on the reason for your wedding: you & spouse. If you think it’ll help, you can say a prayer or set an intention with your girls thanking them for their support and for calm energy to surround you. Or you can straight up ask them to be calm, present and supportive (or whatever you need from them) and then thank them for being there on your special day.
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