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Just Said Yes May 2019

Struggling between big wedding or big honeymoon?

Ashley , on March 14, 2018 at 8:50 PM Posted in Planning 0 9

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Let me start off by saying my fiancé and I love traveling together. We’ve taken two big (in state) vacations together and it’s honestly my favorite memories of our relationship so far. We’re recently engaged, and plan on sometime between March-May of next year. Before engagement, I didn’t care if I got married in a courthouse or if I had a big wedding. But once we got engaged, I began dreaming of a nice venue with 40-50 of people we know and having a blast. Now I’m second guessing again. Our budget isn’t huge but it’s not small either. I’m not a big attention person, I get uncomfortable and nervous in spotlight, that’s why I was so shocked I was even thinking of a big wedding. There’s a Memories wedding package at Disney for only around $3500, and it would be us, and our parents. After the ceremony we’d all probably have a nice intimate dinner and the next day explore one of the parks or have dinner there. (We love Disney). Well if we were to choose that, we’d have enough money leftover to have a week or two week getaway to Europe, which we’ve always dreamed of going to together. If we go through with the big wedding, we would not really have a honeymoon fund at all. Advice???

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Latest activity by Heather, on March 15, 2018 at 10:28 AM

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Robyn · on March 14, 2018 at 9:09 PM
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This is really a what's more important to you and FS situation that answer will be different for everyone. For me if rather have an amazing honeymoon. Others prefer a bigger wedding.
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magnolia5 · on March 14, 2018 at 9:14 PM
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I agree with Robyn that this is more of a question only you and FS can answer.

Personally, I chose the wedding. A honeymoon is just a vacation in my mind, so I'm prioritizing the wedding for now. If FH and I can swing an out of states honeymoon right after the wedding, that's great and we'll do it. Otherwise, I plan on just doing a minimoon or cruise and then we'll make an out of country trip for our one year anniversary.
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Forestwed · on March 14, 2018 at 9:27 PM
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Only you and your fiancé can decide which one you want more. There’s nothing wrong with having a very small wedding and putting the money towards a honeymoon but you both need to discuss it.
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LaraLouM · on March 14, 2018 at 10:55 PM
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Have you thought about looking into a DW in Europe? You could maybe pull off having a midsize wedding by booking room, wedding, and honeymoon package together.
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FutureMrsWalker · on March 15, 2018 at 2:00 AM
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*Also an avid Disney fan and traveler*
This is your day, so by all means do what you want. But if it were up to me, I know I’d be having that Disney wedding & Europe honeymoon (:
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Ree · on March 15, 2018 at 9:07 AM
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We love to travel around the world so for us we decided on medium sized wedding and an amazing honeymoon. Based on your initial post I would say consider a small wedding so that you get all the feels and spending time with loved ones etc. Do a big honeymoon no one ever regrets that lol.
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Ree · on March 15, 2018 at 9:08 AM
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Excellent idea. The best of both worlds.
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An · on March 15, 2018 at 9:41 AM
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I agree with @magnolia5. A vacation is something you will be able to experience at any point. A wedding isn't something that you can re-do. If it was me, I would have a small-ish wedding with your nearest and dearest and postpone the big honeymoon until you have the chance to save up a bit more.
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Heather · on March 15, 2018 at 10:28 AM
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I think that's really up to you and your FH to decide. I don't really agree with what a couple of others have said that a honeymoon is just a vacation. To me, its the start of our married life and it's time alone to celebrate so I think that's really important. So if I had to choose, I'd do the big honeymoon but like I said, that's a decision you will have to make!
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