Stressing a very little

That’s not really how it works. You NEED to reach out to people to get a firm answer , otherwise you won’t know how much food to order or how
many seats to provide. It’s annoying but we all go through it, it’s part of the process. I get people wanting to approach it as “if you couldn’t tell me you were coming, I won’t have a seat for you” and wanting to wash their hands of it, but unfortunately things happen. The mail is not always consistent, things get lost. So someone may have thought they RSVPed but you never received it. We had a family of 4 we didn’t get the rsvp from. Followed up they said they were coming and swore they sent in the card. We rolled our eyes knowing this person, presuming they forgot and were covering. Wedding rolled around and we still didn’t have the card, so we felt certain they had just lost it. Lo and behold, two weeks AFTER the wedding, a wrinkly envelope appears in our mailbox- their rsvp card! I looked at it and in fact it HAD been post-marked, the day before our rsvp deadline. So not only had they properly responded, they even did it on time! Who knows in what dark corner of the post office than envelope had sat in for 6 weeks, but sure enough it did. So, thank goodness we followed up, or else we wouldn’t have had seats for these guests who had done everything right yet fallen victim to a post office error.

Yes!!! This is exactly what I am going through! I am beyond annoyed. My aunt has told my grandmother and two of my other aunts that she is going, but not me. She also told my aunt that she never got her invitation!! Then other people are like “I told you” and I am like several people have told me they are coming repeatedly for months - one even booked a place - and then rsvped no! So now I have no clue if no response is really a no as it usually is

I sent a card as even gave an option to rsvp online and sent out an email as a gentle reminder. If you do not rsvp, then that is a no. Our wedding is out of state too so it is not like you can just pick up and drive on a whim. We are a little over a month out so you know by now! My motto is that you may be going to North Carolina, but you are not coming to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yes, thank you for feeling the same way. Some people have told me they were definitely coming when I sent the save the dates, now that the invitations were out, those same people are saying they don’t think they’ll be able to, which is fine, send the rsvp back no, it’s not going to hurt my feelings, I understand people can’t take time off work.

Hey Amy! Have you had any more RSVP's arrive? It can be super tough trying to collect up everyone's final answers but you don't want to be surprised on your wedding day with extra guests that you assumed were not coming! Perhaps a quick text or email to people would prompt them to reply with their definite answer.

I’ve received a few more, but several people I’ve talked to and they say they won’t be able to make it. I’m not worried about people showing up that didn’t respond, the wedding isn’t in the same state, people would have to have started making lodging reservations.