Stressed!

My wedding is also (a little less) than 4 months away and I email my vendors about once every month to month and a half. I have a planner, which has helped. But I will email my photographer with photo ideas, which keeps us in contact and she seems to love it. She also interacts with both my FH and I on social media. I email my florist photos of changes I want to make or pictures of flowers I have recently seen, and again, she seems very engaged with me. I checked in with my DJ about 3 weeks ago just to verify when I needed to have my song sheets into them. And I talk to my planner, caterer, & venue about twice a month. Honestly, who cares if you annoy them... you are paying them good money!!! Just send them emails, or however you communicate, to check in. There is nothing wrong with that. Reaching out to your coordinator with your concerns is also fine. She maybe able to ease your mind a little.

I would take advantage of the checklist here on WeddingWire, it’s super useful. I’m a little further from my date than you, but right now we’re working on planning our decor and finalizing our invitations. Do you have all of your accessories picked out? That’s something else you could work on. If there’s something specific you need from your vendors, don’t hesitate to reach out to them, but I do think it’s a little early to be finalizing details.

Hey you can talk to them ANYTIME. Theyre there to help you and you're their client. You could even ask them for suggestions of when is a good time to have a final decision about things

We are Date Twins! I’m feeling the same way you are. I haven’t been shy about emailing vendors occasionally to say “hey there! Are we still on your calendar?” They haven’t seemed to mind and it takes the stress away. As far as your event coordinator goes, use her! I’m assuming her services are included with the cost of the venue.
Sometimes I feel like I’m bothering people too, but then I remind myself that I’m paying them and it’s just part of their job. Perhaps you could set up an appointment to talk with her to arrange this stuff.
As for little stuff, I keep a huge master list of every single thing I have to do, make, buy or any person I have to reach out to. I break it into categories and list everything from most urgent to least. I try to do a few things everyday.
We have to keep reminding ourselves that alothough it is stressful, it’s worth it. We will get everything done and will be married to our person!

I am an October bride as well! My wedding coordinator kept telling me in the winter to connect her via email with my vendors but I haven't yet lol. She hasn't asked recently and has been quiet. We have our tasting in July I believe. They just began weddings (the first one in May), so I would imagine they're going in an order about the upcoming weddings now. So I am sure she will ask me again in July and I will do it then! My coordinator handles everything with the florist, DJ, and photobooth vendors coming out to the venue to check the space out and where the DJ and photobooth will be hooked up, etc. You have some time still so don't freak out! I don't bother my vendors really, since they are busy with other weddings. The time will come to be in contact with them closer to the wedding!

I'd focus on small details you can get out of the way. As time gets closer, you'll be finalizing details with your larger vendors, and if you have questions/concerns, I'd email them. They are there to make your day go smoothly so take advantage and when questions come up, just ask them.