Stressed 😩

I'm so sorry that things are so uncertain! I know it can be tough to stay positive. My fiance and I postponed our July 2020 wedding to July 2022, and the weeks leading up to our decision to postpone were the biggest emotional roller coaster. One of the things that helped us to feel a little less stressed was that we set a date (6 weeks before our original wedding date) that we would make a decision on as to whether we were going to postpone or not. Up until that date, we continued to plan for our wedding to occur on our original date (though also avoided putting the date on anything and avoided spending money on things that we would lose if we postponed). As the decision date approached, we assessed the COVID situation at that time, and ultimately decided to postpone since things were not looking good. I suggest doing something similar - set a date that you will make a decision on, and continue to plan for your wedding in the meantime. That way, you don't feel the need to constantly focus on every little change in restrictions until the decision date gets closer, since things can and will change one way or another between now and then. It also wouldn't be a bad idea to put together a backup plan now, just in case you decide to postpone later. If you decide on the decision date to move forward with your wedding, the COVID restrictions in place at that time will be much more similar to what will be in place on your wedding day than the restrictions in place today, so that you can ensure your wedding meets the restrictions. Also be sure to take some time for yourself - plan a date night out or a weekend away or a spa day with friends to help take your mind off of COVID.

You have a right to feel that way and I get it, with personalized stuff that makes it harder. Can I offer an honest suggestion and maybe you do not want to hear it but it is the reality of things. Have you considered doing a very small ceremony and celebration on the date and doing a vow renewal and bigger wedding once things are better and NYC is fully open? I know that is not the plan and in no way I am telling you to forego the big day but that way you still have your day and you can use your decor?

Oh do I feel your pain, my invitations came 2 days before we postponed! $400 down the drain, So many decor items and favors with our date on them we will not be using. We postponed for a year from June to June. If you do have to postpone, do something special on your original day, it will be hard, I won’t try and fluff it. I woke up in tears that day. Put things aside for a few months, then pick up where you left off. In time you will be excited with anticipation as your new date gets closer.

I'm so sorry. I'm in New York as well. My wedding is March 2021. I'm very worried and nervous as well. Things don't look good right now and it's difficult to stay positive. I totally understand your stress and sadness. I hope things get better for you.

Let's just hope that by February next year things will be a little better 🙏🏾

View Quoted Comment Aww thank you so much for your advice im definitely going to start doing those things. This made me feel alot better 😊 thank you so much.

View Quoted Comment Yes this sucks.. yeah thank you

View Quoted Comment Yeah 😩!! I hope by March everything is nice and clear for you. My best wishes and thank you.

View Quoted Comment Yeah thank you so much.

I’m right there with you on 2/5/2021 lol
I’m super stressed and my venue is also not sure if they’ll be open because “venues” are not “restaurants” and in the 5 boroughs they can’t open yet.
I’m waiting until November and I’m thinking if worse comes to worse just doing something small on the day of - and calling it a day. The stress is just so overwhelming

I just went through the same thing. We postponed for a year from 6/27/2020 which was also a special day. So much decor, favors, napkins and more had the date in it. And we had our invitations already. I know none of this is making you feel better, I just wanted to let you know your not alone. It sucks

I’m getting married on 2.21.21. This is our original date I do not want to postpone if we can have a 100 guest I will take it. I have my invitation sitting in my cart and all my Etsy items as well. New York Guidelines are back in affect as of this week.

My date is set in 2022, but playing it by ear with these changes coming down from our governor and mayor (NYC). As Liz said, you are not alone. Best wishes to you. Hopefully the new year will turn around.

View Quoted Comment Yeah y venue just opened for nothing more than 50 ppl 🙁 and ive already payed for 130. So i really dont know what to do.

View Quoted Comment Thank you 😢😢😢

View Quoted Comment Yeah im 2/21/21 too my venue just let us know we cant do more then 50 ppl. It really sucks ive already payed for 130 and i already have my invitations. I think i am moving the whole wedding.

View Quoted Comment Same , my venue isn’t open at all since we are in queens but I paid for 130, I meet with them in December to see what’s up lol

View Quoted Comment Ughhh i just got news 2 days ago we moved our wedding to 2/13/2022 😞 but i wasn’t settling for a 50 ppl wedding.

I definitely second the idea of setting a timeline on when you’ll make a decision on whether you want to postpone. Our wedding was originally scheduled for 12/05 but eventually decided to postpone it until 12/2021. Our venue is closed to groups over 50, but all of our vendors were really accommodating and I think the postponements from the spring and summer set them up to know how to handle it well. If you can do it, I suggest offering to pay on your original timeline since you’re most likely dealing with small businesses that are really suffering. Basically every vendor was thrilled when we offered, like we were giving them a life line.


Up until the deadline we gave ourselves, we planned everything as usual so not my wedding for next you is basically done, I’ll just need to get my dress altered. We are still legally getting married in 2 weeks which is causing its own array of covid problems, but the thing that matters at the end of the day of that you’re with the person you love.

View Quoted Comment I totally understand , I’m willing to settle , just hope I’m allowed at least that lol