Stressed out about not knowing who’s coming!!!!

We started calling the week before they were due! I would reach out to as many as possible and let them know you need an answer. Final numbers are very important and if you have a seating chart it'll be hard to make one not knowing who's going to be there.

Yes, it's absolutely acceptable to reach out after the deadline has passed.

You absolutely need to follow up with everyone who hasn't RSVP'd yet. How will you know how many tables, chairs, place settings, etc? And how will the caterer know how much food to prepare?

You can reach out now. You'll want to know who is attending!

You absolutely need to start following up with people. I would assume you would need to give your caterer or venue a final headcount for food and table settings.

Definitely start contacting people to find out who is coming and who is not.

I would absolutely reach out. People need to understand that you need to know so you can do all of the planning.

Yes, follow up. This is what I sent out to anyone who hadn't responded: Just wanted to follow up and make sure you received our wedding invite. Since our RSVP by date was Monday, we’re reaching out to those we haven’t heard from. If you haven’t mailed back your RSVP, please drop it in the mail this week so we can have a final count for seating/food/etc. If we don’t hear back from you by the 25th, we’ll have to put you down as a no. Hope you can make it!

Yes! Call and ask, you beee concrete numbers (and also to not have to spend the next month stressing!). Totally appropriate to reach out and ask now that your deadline has passed.

Yes, reach out. Your RSVP date has passed and you've waited a few days for the stragglers to come in. Give them a date you need to know by or else you'll mark them as a no.

We had a lot of guests not send their RSVP's back by the deadline. We gave it a few days, then did follow up calls/texts. Now, a week and a half later...I finally have my final count.

If your deadline has passed then definitely reach out to those who have not answered yet.

Definately call everyone!

Second post in a row where I completely feel your pain! haha I really like that last line "or just leave it up to God" the struggle couldn't be any more real to know if guests are coming or not. It's a huge annoyance.

I started reminding wedding party and family 5 days ahead, which helped. We had almost none. We’re at 50% back and our final date is sat the 18th. We have 230 invited and need those numbers for vendors and such! Drives me CRAZY! I’d have already reached out. I would tell them that rsvp is days past, you need an answer by x day or you will mark them as a no. And don’t reach out again. They’ve had time.

So I did make some phone calls and now my guest list looks bigger than I wanted. We are full and if people just start showing up that day I’m just going to have a few extra tables in case. I wasn’t planning on paying for these extra tables but I guess that’s how it’s going to be and I’m going to stop stressing now. My brother even asked me if he can bring 3 people. Omg. The things I do for family.