Rose
Savvy June 2019

Stressed out about not knowing who’s coming!!!!

Rose, on May 14, 2019 at 2:35 AM Posted in Planning 0 16
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Today is May 13. My rsvp deadline was May 8. I sent out 75 invites. I’ve gotten back about 10 cards and 4 verbals. I am sooo stressed out about who’s coming or not. Should I call them and ask? Or just leave it up to god?

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Latest activity by Rose, on May 18, 2019 at 1:35 AM
  • Nafisah
    Super May 2019
    Nafisah ·
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    We started calling the week before they were due! I would reach out to as many as possible and let them know you need an answer. Final numbers are very important and if you have a seating chart it'll be hard to make one not knowing who's going to be there.
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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Yes, it's absolutely acceptable to reach out after the deadline has passed.
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  • B11
    Super May 2019
    B11 ·
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    You absolutely need to follow up with everyone who hasn't RSVP'd yet. How will you know how many tables, chairs, place settings, etc? And how will the caterer know how much food to prepare?

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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    You can reach out now. You'll want to know who is attending!
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  • Melissa
    VIP September 2019
    Melissa ·
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    You absolutely need to start following up with people. I would assume you would need to give your caterer or venue a final headcount for food and table settings.
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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·
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    Definitely start contacting people to find out who is coming and who is not.

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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I would absolutely reach out. People need to understand that you need to know so you can do all of the planning.

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  • Mandy
    VIP May 2019
    Mandy ·
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    Yes, follow up. This is what I sent out to anyone who hadn't responded: Just wanted to follow up and make sure you received our wedding invite. Since our RSVP by date was Monday, we’re reaching out to those we haven’t heard from. If you haven’t mailed back your RSVP, please drop it in the mail this week so we can have a final count for seating/food/etc. If we don’t hear back from you by the 25th, we’ll have to put you down as a no. Hope you can make it!

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    Yes! Call and ask, you beee concrete numbers (and also to not have to spend the next month stressing!). Totally appropriate to reach out and ask now that your deadline has passed.
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  • Victoria
    VIP October 2018
    Victoria ·
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    Yes, reach out. Your RSVP date has passed and you've waited a few days for the stragglers to come in. Give them a date you need to know by or else you'll mark them as a no.
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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    We had a lot of guests not send their RSVP's back by the deadline. We gave it a few days, then did follow up calls/texts. Now, a week and a half later...I finally have my final count.

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  • Jess
    Super September 2019
    Jess ·
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    If your deadline has passed then definitely reach out to those who have not answered yet.

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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    Definately call everyone!
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  • Stephanie
    Super June 2019
    Stephanie ·
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    Second post in a row where I completely feel your pain! haha I really like that last line "or just leave it up to God" the struggle couldn't be any more real to know if guests are coming or not. It's a huge annoyance.

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  • T
    Super June 2019
    Tiffany ·
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    I started reminding wedding party and family 5 days ahead, which helped. We had almost none. We’re at 50% back and our final date is sat the 18th. We have 230 invited and need those numbers for vendors and such! Drives me CRAZY! I’d have already reached out. I would tell them that rsvp is days past, you need an answer by x day or you will mark them as a no. And don’t reach out again. They’ve had time.
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  • Rose
    Savvy June 2019
    Rose ·
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    So I did make some phone calls and now my guest list looks bigger than I wanted. We are full and if people just start showing up that day I’m just going to have a few extra tables in case. I wasn’t planning on paying for these extra tables but I guess that’s how it’s going to be and I’m going to stop stressing now. My brother even asked me if he can bring 3 people. Omg. The things I do for family.
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