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Lindsey
Beginner October 2020

Stressed Oct 3rd bride, Need advice!

Lindsey, on August 5, 2020 at 9:52 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 6

Hey all fellow brides,

I need some advice. I feel like I'm going completely crazy and planning my wedding has totally consumed me! We were set to get married June 13, but postponed till Oct. 3rd hoping things would be better by than, well it's not looking good. We plan to get married in Minnesota. Right now they have restrictions of 50% capacity of the church, no greater than 250 people. Or outside not more than 250 people. We plan to get married in the church I grew up in. We can have about 120 people total in the church or can do it outside right next to the church. We have an indoor venue booked and right now we could have 250 people in there. To us that is to much so we have lowered our guest list to 100-150. My future in-laws don't support this plan. They want us to have only 50 people at the wedding ceremony than have just a small gather in my parents backyard. Or they said if we can find an all outside venue they would feel more comfortable with having 150 people there. My concern is that it will be Minnesota in Oct. never know what the weather could be. Without their support I feel like we can't do the 150 at the venue. So I need some advice with what we should do. Do we still just proceed as planned and invite 100-150 or find an outside venue(I do have one in mind and it's available). Or last choice is just have a smaller wedding ceremony and small gathering and than do a bigger reception and dance hopefully next year when all this craziness is more controlled? Thank you

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Latest activity by Lynnie, on August 5, 2020 at 5:45 PM
  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    Would you be able to get any refunds for the deposits that were already put down for this year? Or would it be a loss if you don't use your venue?

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  • Mindy
    Super November 2020
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    First off I’m so sorry that you are going through this. Even if you invite 100-150 people, not all of them are going to show up, even before covid.
    I know I wouldn’t attend a gathering that large under the current conditions.
    That being said, as someone who grew up in the north, outdoor anything after September is risky.
    Plus with an outdoor venue, you have to figure out a lot of extras that you would already have with the indoor venue. Are your in-laws paying for any of this? Because if not, then they shouldn’t be pressuring you into something you and your FH don’t want.
    At the end of the day, the most important thing is marrying your FH.
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  • Lindsey
    Beginner October 2020
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    Thanks for the response. That is what I'm going to start to ask within the next couple of days. If it's going to cost us more money in the end I say try to proceed as planned. Luckily with our wedding reception venue we didn't have to put a deposit down. We did when we first booked it, but than they closed their doors back in Dec of last year and we got our deposit back. Than they got new management and were able to reopened in Feb of this year and we booked again and didn't have to put a deposit down.

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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
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    Well that is great! If you aren't losing a ton of money then I would look into it. But me personally, I wouldn't want to just lose out on a bunch of money!

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  • Molly
    VIP September 2020
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    I would rather go to an outdoor venue.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    Hi Lindsey! If you have an outdoor venue in mind that's available, and wouldn't be loosing money on canceling the indoor reception venue - then I'd definitely think about it!

    Have you also thought about decreasing your reception guest list further? Would your in-laws feel more comfortable with a 75 or 50 person indoor reception?? Outdoors is better for social distancing, but I also understand your weather concerns!

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