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Marcella
Beginner February 2020

Stressed In-law Relationships

Marcella, on November 12, 2019 at 10:27 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6
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My mother in law and step mother in law (they’re married) and I had always had an INCREDIBLE relationship. We were virtually best friends. But now that the wedding is less than four months away, I’ve noticed them becoming super demanding of my fiancé and very degrading and petty towards me. (Essentially calling me a terrible kid who doesn’t respect them because I put my Christmas tree up before they did, when this wasn’t an issue last year). My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years now, living together for 3.

I’ve heard that this is common, but I don’t know HOW to handle it! I hate the bad relationship now, and the stress of it all is taking its toll on me physically and mentally. My fiancé is incredible and stands up for me and us, but I just don’t know how to make it better.

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Latest activity by Brenda, on November 12, 2019 at 1:13 PM
  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    It sounds like it’s due to petty little things and the stress of the wedding might be getting to everyone. Personally I would let it go for now. It sounds like your FH is standing up for you which is great but I would just avoid the drama for now.
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  • Marcella
    Beginner February 2020
    Marcella ·
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    See that’s what I thought, but they’re literally not involved (financially) with the wedding at all. They’re of course walked down the aisle and have a parents speech, but other than that I’m not seeing a reason for them to stress and act this way towards us.
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  • Alejandra
    Super November 2021
    Alejandra ·
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    Have you tried talking to them about it? You and your fiancé could sit them down and all talk about what’s bothering you. I’m sorry this is happening :/ hopefully you can all clear the air soon
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  • Marcella
    Beginner February 2020
    Marcella ·
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    We haven’t, because unfortunately they just moved to south FL and we live in GA so all of our communication is either over the phone or in a group chat, and anything/everything said could be taken the wrong way
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I totally understand where you are coming from. My mother-in-law went from being super easy to get along with to very difficult after we got engaged. She even thinks she can tell me now when we can have a baby which is ridiculous. My husband has tried talking to his mom and she backs off when he's around, but then starts with me again when it is just the two of us. Sadly there isn't much you can. I try to discuss other things with her, but I've earned my husband if she starts with me about a baby again I'm going to go off on her. The best advice I have for you is to distance yourself from them or talk to them about other things other than the wedding.
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    Dedicated December 2019
    Brenda ·
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    Marcella,

    Sometimes weddings can bring the worst out in people! Its sad to say but so true. I've had this happen in my family as well! Even if it is petty and you hate the tension I would just say do your best to just ignore it. You don't want the negativity and if you pay no mind to it, it doesnt have the power to bother you as much. I hope this helps and I hope things get better!

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