Stressed bride over the bachelorette party!!!

I'm sorry to hear that this is causing you added stress! I definitely hear where you're coming from. I'm assuming from the tone of your post that everything is already set in stone? If it weren't, I would suggest having a convo with your MOH, but if it's already booked I would just try not to worry about it so much and make the most of it while you are there. I'm sure that whoever is able to attend is doing it because they want to, and not out of obligation (that's how I would look at it if I were attending, anyway).

Not sure where you're going, but maybe there are ways you can cut some cost while you're there. Hope you can just enjoy!

"MOH, I love you and I am SO thankful for the party you've planned but many of our friends can't afford that and are not able to come as a result. Could we scale back greatly and just do a fun night out? Again, I am so thankful for you and this party but I would really like to celebrate with everyone."

Woo. Bach weekend costing more than the wedding!

We had originally wanted to do a weekend in Austin for my bachelorette party. Once the BM is charge started pricing things out, some of the girls backed out due to finances. Even I was thinking of backing out because the price was getting to be too much. I talked to my BM and asked her if it would be easier for everyone to just stay home and do a one night thing? It worked out wonderfully and since we stayed in Chicago, I was able to invite 3 more friends to join us.

Just talk to your MOH. Tell her you appreciate all of her help and planning, but it might just be easier to have a more casual night.

You have to tell her to clam down and scale down. then tell her how you feel and what you want. My MOH also has extravagant taste. But I am on the opposite end of the spectrum, I would rather have less people and it be more expensive. My thought is I live in another state from 90 percent of my friends and BM, someone has to travel, and I rather it be me (since they are all traveling out of state for the wedding). Luckily I am from Florida, so my bach is in Miami, and the majority planning on coming live in Florida so it works. In your case I understand your logic but just tell her. It scares me a little bc I assume your bach is soon, probably april or may.

You need to tell her scale way back.

I've paid that and more for bachelorette. (Going away for the weekend and even a night out in downtown Philly with a limo). That was my decision to pay that though. Not everyone is comfortable spending that, and obviously you aren't okay with having tigers spend that.

I'm wondering if your MOH planned it and then said "here's the cost." Did she check with the other ladies before making the plans?

ETA: your friends aren't tigers. Words are not my thing tonight

Honestly, I'd let the MOH hash it out with the invitees. We're doing a destination long weekend in Nashville and it's $300 a person for Airbnb accommodations, shirts, and a pedal bar tour. That's without airfare or food/drink. I provided a list of 14 girls and 8 are attending. It IS VERY EXPENSIVE and not something I'd plan by myself, but I am SO excited and grateful. I'm looking forward to it!

Thank you for the great responses. I pretty much live away from more than half of my bridal party and my wedding is in the area I live in which means people are already traveling to me. My MOH made the bachelorette party in her city, which all of the ladies including myself have to travel to. So for many of the BM they are traveling 2 separate times and paying for wedding items. We resolved the issue. I called my mom to step in since I was not suppose to know of the cost. Mom gave her ideas on trimming things down and we found out that it isn't all of the ladies spending 300 bucks. It is my baby sister (20) buying all of these extra things. Stress relieved.