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Stressed and unsure

Kika, on July 25, 2019 at 1:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 5

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I’m not getting married until next October but I’m already stressed out about it all. I can’t please everyone which is making me really upset. I know the day is about me and FH but I know he doesn’t want to have a full fledge wedding. I know he wants to be married to me but not do everything. I always dreamt of having this big wedding with this amazing gown but I cannot afford it at all. Between my FH and I we work 5 jobs. My parents and other family members have offered to help but I can’t fathom spending so much on just a party. I’m becoming depressed about everything. I’m okay with having a small backyard wedding but I do want to have it in October. The only problem with that is if you are familiar with northern Illinois or souther Wisconsin, snow and cold can happen at any time. Anyone have any guidance or wisdom to share with this stressed out depressed bride?

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Latest activity by Yana, on July 25, 2019 at 4:16 PM

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Sara · on July 25, 2019 at 2:06 PM
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I was feeling overwhelmed and defeated in the begining and like I needed everything done and settled. I took a step back, decided what I wanted and researched until I felt like I could make it work. I haven't actually done anything yet except get a gownb, but I have an entire plan of what I want and I'm finding ways to get it. If October is important and a beautiful big gown is important do those 2 things. You don't have to sacrifice ur gown to "fit" your venue. Screw it, wear a big gown to city hall if you want the gown!

And no, you can't please everyone ever. When you try to please everyone you end up pleasing everyone but yourself! Just take some time to figure out what's important to you both and work with that.
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Melle · on July 25, 2019 at 2:25 PM
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Yea I feel ya - wedding prices and costs are so overwhelmingly pricey that it just makes it stressful to think about. I realized that at the end of the day no matter what kind of a party or event you have, people are just happy to be able to be there and celebrate with you so even if you forego a reception that's totally ok!
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Mariah · on July 25, 2019 at 2:25 PM
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It's okay to feel stressed. And if your family wants to help then let them! It'll make them happy to see you have the day you want. Even if its not super big.
Thats the one thing we have to learn to do, is let others help out when they offer it!
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Lady · on July 25, 2019 at 2:45 PM
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I totally agree that no matter what kind of wedding you have, you can wear your princess dress if you want!!! It's important to consider your FI's feelings about the type of wedding you have, but really - you dont' have to listen to anyone else. Marriage is all about compromise and this ist just the first big one! Probably not feasible to do a backyard wedding in October, but you have plenty of time to figure it out
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Yana · on July 25, 2019 at 4:16 PM
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Planning a wedding is stressful but you just need to relax and take it one day at a time. focus on one major thing and then everything else will fall into place. also, a wedding is not just a party! its so much more than that! its a special celebration you share with your family and friends to celebrate your love that you will remember forever! i used to say the same thing but i've come to realize its much more than just a party. my wedding is october of this year and i still haven't picked out all my vendors (imagine my stress!) big or small im sure its going to be your version of perfect! you have time to figure out your venue and dress. i find reading and participating in WW forums to help with the stress, get and give advice / ideas. it eases your mind when you know other people are going through the same stress as you. good luck! i'm sure it'll end up perfect
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