Dedicated October 2019

Stress overload

Megan, on September 16, 2019 at 5:22 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 2
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So this is a bit of a rant and I apologize. Theres also mentions of ill family.

So we are 25 days out (woo almost here) but weve been getting a load of bad news that has made me feel like I'm being selfish by still having a wedding. My loan got denied that was to be used to pay for the last few things. This was solved as they said once my FH cosigns we should have no issue. Though I am frustrated at how late this is with paying everything off.

However. My grandmother is now in the hospital and isnt doing well. She starts chemo this week, but she's already so sick I worry what this will do to her. My entire family says I'm not being selfish by continuing to plan. But in my brain I feel like I should stop because it's my family and I feel I need to be there for her. If she pulls through till the wedding she wont attend, so I have to have the conversation with our photographer of doing pictures at the hospital should she still be with us. My father's health is also fairly poor right now, adding to the worry of should I keep going. I know its illogical to think that way, especially since my grandmother and mother are still asking about final plans and such. But I cant help but worry. I'm to the point where I'm about to ask my MOH and mother to cancel the bridal shower and bachelorette party to be with family instead.

I guess if anyone has advice on how to lower the stress level itd be great.


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    Super September 2019
    Anna ·
    I am so sorry you’re going through this! In my opinion, it would be selfish not to keep planning. It’s so hard and I hope both your grandma and dad are able to be there for your special day, but if for whatever reason they can’t I think (I don’t know them but talking from experience) they would want you to continue on. It will give them something to fight for and think of. Plus you can always have them FaceTime the ceremony! Not ideal, but my cousin did this for my grandma and it meant the world to her. She was in a similar situation, she couldn’t fly up to us so my grandpa did FaceTime and meant the world to her and the bride/groom. I think taking pictures in your gown at the hospital (if it comes to that) is a wonderful idea.

    Everything will work out the way it should. I hope everyone makes a speedy recovery and can be there for your big day. I hope this helped a little 💜
  • Megan
    Dedicated October 2019
    Megan ·
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    It helped me kinda keep things straight in my mind. I appreciate it. Thank you 💜

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