Stress Level through the roof, August wedding

My wedding isn’t til December but me and my fiancé already decided that if we’re allowed to have our wedding, we’re having it. We understand some people might not want to come, but we have a honeymoon booked (only an hour and a half away from our house), and we want to have another baby almost immediately. I would definitely still have it!!

I agree with PP. My wedding is in September, we think we will be ok for that date. We are having the wedding regardless; we understand if some don't want to come because of what is going on. But we want to start trying for a baby right away as well. I think that things are looking up as some states start to scale back some of the restrictions. I think things are looking a lot better than what they were last week!!

Definitely go on with your wedding if you are able too! And whoever comes, comes! I personally did the same thing and invited people I barely talk to, and I’m hoping this just makes some people not come. We invited 250 and I would be fine if 50 people came!! Honestly I would love that even more. I always wanted an intimate wedding but my fiancé has a massive family so his immediate side is 50. Either way it’s gonna be a day full of love and you will get to concentrate more on why you are there in the first place. Low key I’m loving the idea of having to elope with just our parents so I can be with my fiancé all day😅 we shall see!! Good luck!

We feel the same about our August 8th, 2020 wedding. We have 283 people invited. A lot of people are international guests (85) and if we can't have them due to border closures we will still continue. However, if it's a situation where it's still scary out there we will postpone. I don't want to feel scared to hug people or dance closely at our wedding. Our plan is still to marry August 8th and have the reception next year if it comes to that.
I wouldn't make any decisions yet to be honest. Especially since yours is on a private property you have flexibility there and I am envious of that. The longer we wait the more we run the risk of there being no dates left in 2021.

I think having plan a b and c will help and then when it gets a little closer you can make a final decision

I can relate to you! My wedding is July 25 in Napa. I have started creating my plan b. I am going to elope with a few friends and have a friend marry us in Tahoe on the day of. Then we will have the wedding when it’s safe. Either late August or next year. I also thought about still having it and whoever comes comes but my wedding is already really small so idk. Let us know what you decide to do! I’m waiting until mid May to decide

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I'm really hoping everything works out and we can move along with 08/08/20. My FMIL asked what my plan B was and I said to roll over and die, she didn't think it was as funny as I did, but I don't want to have to have a plan B. I know that I need to have a back up plan, but I just want it to work out in our favor! If all of the vendors are willing and able we are going to get married on 08/08/20. Whoever can make it can make it and if it turns out to be a smaller more intimate wedding then we would be more than okay with it!

Hi McKenzie,

It sounds like you know exactly what you want to do, so I think you should move forward as planned--assuming you're allowed. Personally, I think your comment to your FMIL is funny, but she may not have the same sense of humor. lol

If group size restrictions are in place in Oregon by August, would you cut the guest list? Maybe that's the type of plan B that your in-laws are interested to know more about...?

The general consensus for August weddings is that couples should continue to monitor the situation and try to make a decision by the end of May. Unfortunately, it's a waiting game right now. Are some of your guests traveling by air to attend? If so, have you contacted those out-of-state guests to see what they think? If they're feeling uncomfortable about travel by next month (May), that could be a factor that you'd want to consider as you adjust your plan for a smaller, more intimate wedding.

I'm wishing you the best of luck with the wedding of your dreams in August!

View Quoted Comment Ugh I know what I WANT to do, but it also makes me feel guilty and selfish. I think we’re going to see what May has in store for us and maybe even into June to see how it goes. We’re sending invites the beginning of June depending on how everything is of course. We’re supposed to do a combined bachelor/bachelorette camping trip on the Oregon coast so we’ll also see about that! I already have high enough anxiety in every day life I didn’t need this to be the cherry on top 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

Ours is (supposedly) 08/08/2020, too! (And I was also already anxious.) But in Massachusetts and we're not exactly in a great place at the moment. We're definitely getting married that day, and if we're not allowed to invite anyone, we won't, and if we are allowed to invite people, great. If we are, I think we'll include a note with the invitations that says something like this, but more thoughtfully worded:


We hope you'll be able to join us in celebrating our wedding, but in light of the current situation, we certainly understand if you are not able to be there with us physically on that day. We don't want you to do anything that would jeopardize your health or safety.Feel free to reach out to us/visit our website [if applicable] for information about what we are doing to try and keep our guests safe.
Basically: you are important to us, so we wanted to invite you, but don't feel bad about RSVPing NO if you need to. We get that Coronavirus is a thing.
Doing something like that might help you feel less guilty about still wanting this.

View Quoted Comment That’s a really good idea!! If you don’t mind I may steal your wording!

View Quoted Comment Go for it!