Stress in finding the wedding dress

I'm sorry for the loss of your mom. I'm sure that makes this harder.

How many BMs are you taking with you? I'd go again with just one person, or even by yourself. I shopped by myself. The only one that needs to love the dress is you. Go back and try on the one you liked. Close your eyes and see if you can picture yourself walking down the aisle. If you're really not sure, take a picture and post it here for us. Maybe you are just being too critical of yourself?

So sorry for the loss of your mom - that must be making it so much harder! So first off, hugs for you.

I agree with Daria above - if you're finding that there are a lot of conflicting opinions or you are on a VERY different page from those you're shopping with, maybe take at least one appointment time by yourself. That way you can get a feel for what you like, what feels right to you, and maybe (if you believe in this sort of thing) make a connection with mom in a dress. Know what I mean? I knew my dress was "the one" because I felt like I made a connection with my grandma - a super control freak who I joke is planning my wedding from beyond the grave! Ordered the dress and then ALL DAY I was seeing monarch butterflies everywhere. (I have always been convinced that she is sending me some kind of message when I see one...and there were TONS of them!)

I know the community here would love to see some of what you're thinking and give feedback if you need some extra eyes! We're here to help!

My heart breaks for your loss.

If this helps you, I went wedding dress shopping solo and it was so much nicer. I had a style in mind. I knew if I brought my girls then it would be too many opinions, too much influence and I’d end up second guessing myself. Instead, I went solo, it was relaxing and amazing and I found my perfect dress and I will invite them to the dress viewing and fittings. Win-win.

I went to a few pricey boutiques before I was ready to buy just to see what I liked on me and I brought one friend with me. Then I brought a different friend when I bought the dress- it was the first legit dress I tried on and it was more of an "okay, this works, we're done" moment. I tried on a few others to be sure. I've gained weight recently so I knew a super form fitting dress wasn't for me so I walked out with that first dress. Not everyone has a big moment at all if you don't know what you like, the stylist will be able to help. Take some pics and write down the style numbers so you can mull it over!

Hi Elizabeth! Welcome to the WeddingWire Community, we are happy to have you! I am so sorry to hear about your mother. It can be really hard to do important things without the wisdom and opinions you are used to having in your life. Also, dress shopping can be really stressful, especially when everyone is giving you inputs that you don't want to hear! Have you ever considering going dress shopping alone or just with one other person? This way, you will know exactly how a dress makes YOU feel without the inputs of others! I hope that you can find the perfect dress that makes you feel incredible both inside and out! What styles do you typically like? What are you trying to stay away from?

Thank you so much, everyone! I was so stressed out about finding my wedding dress. Your advice greatly helped me! I was dreading going back to another bridal store. But, last week, I forced myself to set up an appointment and I went with my dad. It was a completely different experience!! The people were so nice... dad helped as much as he could (dad jokes and all)... and I finally got to relax! And, I am truly happy to say that I found my dress! It is beautiful! Thank you so much, again, for all of your help!