A little backstory. My fiancé and I were engaged September 2018. And since then, we decided to get married in 2020 because we lived the idea of getting married in the new decade. So from 2018 to early early 2020 I have been slowly planning and setting up vendors and just prepping for the wedding in a slow and stressless way. As a matter of fact, wedding planning was a way of destressing after long days from my terrible work. I’d come home and research flowers or cakes. I’d take my time and savor each delightful aspect to wedding planning. Enter COVID-19. And my stress is that of a blind person on a tightrope 200 ft in the air. I’ve had to reschedule twice, I’ve had to cancel my wedding indefinitely and downgrade to an elopement in a backyard I’ve never wanted. Now even planning an elopement is proving extremely difficult and stressful. I hate all of this. I’ve never felt more alone and miserable in planning my wedding than right now. I miss when wedding planning was a way of reducing stress. I miss loving to log in here and seeing all the interesting topics and pretty dresses. I miss the excitement and anticipation of my own big day. I really feel like I don’t have anything to look forward to. I hate the idea that this wedding could have been the least stressful event of my life and how easy it all could have been if it wasn’t for this bleeping bleeping bleep son of a bleep bleep virus.
I feel all of this. Planning feels like work now, and I feel like I need to be a lawyer and a public health official and a crisis manager and a psychic to navigate it. Trying to focus completely on my FH and just let the rest roll off my back
The marriage to the one you love most and want to spend the rest of your life with matters most. This COVID happening is about perspective. All 2020 couples have been effected. Has interrupted plans, and countdowns and all that was anticipated for your wedding day. I agree with you, I was having a lovely, stress free time planning the last year and half. (wedding date was 10/11/2020) but when important family said they wouldn't and couldn't risk COVID to attend, when the least amount of guests attended my bridal shower and when my FH sat down and said we should reconsider.... Eh. Keep calm and carry on. The marriage matters most.
My FH said something to me the other day and it’s resonated with me everyday since,
“2020 has been a $&@/ show, but if we get married then suddenly it’s all worth it” I love what he said and he’s so right, I don’t care about anything else except marrying the love of my life and no matter where or how we do it, if we succeed with 2020 everything this year was worth it
I never wanted a backyard wedding either but that become my only option so I embraced it and completely decked it out with my own vision and made it look better then I ever expected and let me tell you prior to that I was miserable about how my wedding was destroyed But I wanted to marry the love of my life more then anything on the original date we chose. I didn’t wear my dress which broke my heart but I hope and pray I can wear it next year at my party. In the mist of all the emotions and destroyed events and literally I mean every thing I wanted didn’t work out but somehow in the moment of marrying my best friend literally nothing else in the world mattered. I was the happiest person that day and I’m over the moon happy that I went through with It because I’m just so happy I married my best friend. I know this stinks so much and that your vision may not look the exact way you wanted it but I’m telling you in that moment nothing else will matter. You can always have a party down the road but I can promise you no matter where you do this it will feel just as amazing. Here’s a look at how I transformed my backyard into the ultimate wedding experience. I hope this helps inspire you and boost your spirit a little! Hang in there girl you can do this!💕
I know what you mean. Due to a serious of very unfortunate events, our venue caused us to not be able to have our wedding on our original date or our back-up date that we reserved. Idk if Im more upset that we planned for a year and a half only to have it all fall apart a month before the wedding was supposed to happen, or that idk how Im not gonna be bitter looking at other peoples weddings when I never got to have one. Agree with you that it was a stress reliever...and fun too. Until it wasnt anymore.
Honey, don't worry so much. You will be all right! We also postponed our wedding by a year, and I hope that by the end of the year the epidemic will be over and we will be able to celebrate the best wedding anniversary in the world. Take a deep breath and let it out. Everything will be fine.
Aida I completely feel you!!!! I just posted a conversation very similar to your's yesterday afternoon. I had downloaded the Weddingwire app the afternoon we got engaged but had never really looked beyond the countdown hahaha I am so glad I found these forums, the support is great and definitely helped calm my stress yesterday. I had actually been "Pinterest planning" my wedding for months and months before my FH shocked me and proposed in June. Like you, planning the REAL deal was calming and fun to me, but now it's just stressing me out and I've decided to take a step back
I’m so sorry, and I totally feel your pain. No matter what the day looks like, I promise you that it will still be amazing because you’ll get to marry your best friend. At the end of the day that’s all that really matters ❤️
I feel this !!! My FH was stressed to the max about the wedding. He was so stressed in fact that when I asked him if we only had the 30 people that have already committed to coming (reserved places & bought tickets) if he would still be happy with going through with the wedding, I was able to see him physically relax.
We are just about as over all this as one could be. I want this craptastic year to be remembered for the good that happened. I certainly hope that every bride an groom getting married this year remembers that we all pulled through and made the best of the worst!
I totally understand how you feel. My original date was July 25th and I made a post because when the day came I was having a meltdown. I’ve rescheduled 3 times from 2021 back to 2020 and decided we might as well go on and get married since there is still so much uncertainty going on. Now I’m getting married in November and had to cut my guest list and now I’m down to 25 people. It breaks my heart that all the planning, I meticulously took my time to do went completely out the window and now I have to completely redo my vision. The only hope I hold onto is the fact that I get to marry my sweetheart. I try to see that as a silver lining and hope the day still turns out magical. I hope your day still comes out beautiful as well. Virtual hugs to you❤️🤗